PTSD is most definitely a thing.
After a sociopath or narcissistic abuser we have it.
Even if our friends or family don’t understand.
— Even if we don’t understand.
It may surprise some of us that we’re going through is PTSD. It may surprise our family or friends to realize that the pain, the terror, that broken feeling and all the weepy confusion is post traumatic stress. PTSD is a thing after a sociopath or a narcissistic abuser. What we’re feeling is normal. – And unavoidable. PTSD – stands for post traumatic stress disorder.
Post means after. So after trauma stress. “Disorder” might sound intimidating. Not to worry. Here’s the thing: being with the sociopath is trauma from nearly day one.
We’re really gonna be okay.
The post traumatic stress is the fall out in the aftermath of time spent with a sociopath. We don’t have a “disorder” as in, omg we’re gonna be like this forever, and we’re permanently broken. PTSD is the normal result of trauma – and we can recover. Just like a cast heals a broken leg, there are specific effective methods and perspectives in order to heal PTSD after a sociopath.
We may feel all or some of the following things in PTSD after a sociopath: Profound fear of our abuser or love scamming sociopath. Weepiness and physical weakness. Sorrow, grief, despair, depression. Inability to concentrate on things indirectly connected to our abuser. Extreme and sudden weight loss. Illness. Fatigue; abnormal sleep patterns: inability to sleep or sleeping extended hours. Nightmares. Fear of going places linked to our abuser. Terrorizing recall of events with the sociopath or narcopath. Confusion, indecision and doubt. Emphatic desire to leave, move, change jobs or make drastic change. We might miss him so much we feel like we could die. We feel broken.
PTSD is a Natural Part of Healing From Trauma
So what is this thing? This post traumatic stress? What causes it? Judy Crane, a therapist in Florida in the U.S. describes the trauma that causes post traumatic stress in this way:
Trauma is… “Anything less than nurturing.
An event or experience that changes your
vision of yourself and your place in the world.” ~ Judy Crane
In PTSD we are shocked, afraid, scared to death, sad, confused, wanting to die, crying all the time. Alone, no one understands, heavy, dark, overwhelmed, super stressed. Grief stricken, wondering why this happened. Thinking its our fault. Wondering if we’ll ever smile again. Ever love again. Wondering how to get from broken to normal. Wanting our life back. There is no other way a person can feel after a collision and entanglement with a sociopath. This is what they do – and they love it. They’re born with an abnormal brain that clashes profoundly with our emotional brain.
Healing Comes in Stages – Time is On Our Side
The recovery of true love scam comes in stages. Patience and self-love are necessary. Spending time only with those who truly love us is a part of the cure. Establishing and maintaining no contact with the con artist who hijacked our lives is essential. There is without a doubt hope after a sociopath or a narcissist.
If what we’re going through is misunderstood
the recommended healing could be so wrong it makes more damage.
Like putting a cast on our healthy hand instead of our broken leg.
There’s Nothing Wrong with Us – We Can Heal PTSD
One of the most important things we can do is realize: this wasn’t personal. It looked like love, but it wasn’t. It was a raid, a home invasion, a breaking and entering through our hearts. It’s critical we do 3 things: 1. Go No Contact. 2. Really comprehend what a sociopath is. 3. Reframe the nightmare, this means looking at what happened through “sociopath colored glasses.” This wasn’t a relationship – it was a crime. – And keep in mind: No one robs an empty house. We are AWESOME.
Here’s to REAL True Love and Happiness!
Time to thrive!
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