How sociopaths break up with us reveals their malevolent hearts.
They feel only for themselves.
Getting what they want – and not getting caught.
What’s going on when sociopaths break up with us? Where did all the love go? What about all the promises? The sacrifices? The moments when they held us and laughed with us?! We had so much in common, we wanted the same things! – We never knew such love! We gave it everything, every part of us, we never loved so hard.
They broke up in a text message: “I’m done.”
Or their things were gone when we got home.
Or they go to the store and never came back.
Yes. Yes we did, we gave and gave and gave – as they intended. We gave; they took. We gave; they were taking more. Sociopaths “break up” with us because they’re done. – We only think it’s a break up, because we think we’re in a relationship.
What we’re in is true love scam with a con artist.
What we do next makes all the difference.
Every Scam Comes to an End – The sociopath is expecting the end
If we look at the entire hideous, nightmare through the mind of a sociopath it’s clear to see: they’re simply done. They have all they can get or want. They’re bored. They have juicier prey around the corner, or down the street – all over town. or – we’ve sen through them and they know it. — This is what happens single every time.
They leave because they know we’re about to see through the façade.
They know we’re getting close to the truth, even if we don’t.
They’ve done this before; practice makes perfect.
There may be slight differences in detail, but there is no other story for anyone involved with or in love with a sociopath. This is the sociopaths only true life story. Everything else is a lie. They don’t discard or devalue us – they didn’t value us to begin with except as a sort of ATM. They’re just done. And they know we’re getting close to catching on to what they really are – so they “break-up” with us.
Sociopaths are ALWAYS sleeping with other women or men.
Sociopaths don’t care about anyone’s feelings.
They leave a trail of their bad behavior and indiscretion.
When we ask them about it they call us crazy.
They roller coaster us: act a little nice then act mean, or completely ignore us.
We try to talk about it, make it better; it’s like trying to hold onto a fist full of ice cream. Suddenly – oddly and coldly – they tell us it’s over.
They love doing it in text messages.
And then they tell everyone we’re crazy.
And often everyone believes them.
After they’re gone we find they took belongings – usually irreplaceable or deeply meaningful items that have no meaning to them.
What to do When a Sociopath Breaks Up with Us
Celebrate!!!! : )
Then really – not a whole lot, except a lotta removing him from our lives.
Doing nothing is the number one best reaction when sociopaths break up with us. There are specific things to do and not to do, but largely on their end we want them to see us as “doing nothing”.
After getting our locks changed, do nothing as in the following:
Do nothing. Yes. Again: do nothing.
Let them go.
Change our door locks if you haven’t yet.
Do not let him back in the door.
Do not answer any texts. Period. About anything.
Continue doing nothing.
Do not talk to them.
Do not text them.
Do not email them.
Don’t answer any emails from them.
Don’t look at him on Facebook.
Do not message them.
Still do nothing.
Don’t answer any messages no matter what they say.
Block them on our phone and in all social media accounts.
Go beyond “unfriend” – BLOCK HIM.
Don’t expect him to return the photos, or ring, or whatever item they took.
Say good-bye to whatever precious belongings that went out the door with him or her.
Block Every Person Connected to the Sociopath
And as for other people we know who know the sociopath:
Block anyone connected to him.
Everyone. His or her family – Even our family if they think the sociopath is peachy.
Block anyone and everyone who messages or talks to him.
Block any Facebook friends who are his friends on Facebook.
Do not defend our character to those he tells we’re crazy – no matter who they are.
If married, find a great attorney who understands sociopaths and how they work.
Regarding children, consider using a mediator rather than speaking with him directly.
Surround ourselves with family and long time devoted friends who love us.
Do not do these things:
Do not chase after them.
Do not beg them to come back.
Do not defend ourselves to others or to them.
Do not talk to them.
Do not post or write online the litany of their wrongdoings.
Do not forget to BLOCK them.
Silence and No Contact Equals Freedom and Safety
There are myriad reasons for going silent and for so much “doing” nothing when sociopaths break up with us. Doing nothing takes the wind out of their evil sails. Doing nothing, blocking them, keeping no contact releases their sticky-dark-revolting venom from our bones, from our heart, our mind and soul more quickly. And know – spending our efforts defending ourselves makes us look crazy – and will drive us crazy.
Sociopaths love to make us look crazy and they know just how to do it. Staying silent keeps our words from coming back to haunt us if he shows these messages around to any mutual friends… or posts them on Facebook. These kinds of messages from us: “What?! I love youuuuu! What are you saying? Why!? I don’t understand!! But I LOVE YOU!!!” shown around in his (or her) Facebook posts make their emphatic, “She’s crazy.” hold weight.
Sociopaths Tell Others We’re Evil, Crazy, Liars
Some of the people they try to convince we’re “crazy” will be people who hardly know them – and won’t give what he says about us a second thought. Most will have no desire to be caught in the strange heat of the whirlwind caused by sociopaths maniacal games.
There will be those who believe every word they say about us – they’re wrapped up in and blinded by the sociopath’s charms – remember when we were under his spell? Those poor souls will have their own recovery to do when he leaves them holding the bag – for now give all our attention to our own healing. – Becoming ourselves again is easier if we understand how sociopaths think.
It isn’t personal, it’s true love scam.
Recovery form a Sociopath and PTSD is Possible
As soon as we go no contact we begin recovery. We’ll begin the suffering ride through post traumatic stress. PTSD after a sociopath is no joke. – It is real. It is brutal. It is horrific, despairing and gut wrenching with a vat of utter aloneness and self-doubt on the side.
You know what? – For all that, PTSD after a monster is no match for us – the amazing, strong, loving women and men that we are. We are Super Heros. We are our own Angels. Blossom, expand our lives, embrace ourselves. Overcome the trauma and live fully in our greatness as women, as stellar human beings with colossal hearts.
Here’s to REAL True Love and Happiness!
Time to thrive!