True Love Scam – Married to a Con Man

I Married a Con Man – So Maybe You Can Skip It.

If you’re in a scammer’s grip,
I hope you recognize, get away, go no contact
and recover before he or she can lie again.
It’s time to thrive.

I married a con man  – accidentally. A long-time friend introduced me to someone as a short-term roommate – who very quickly became my husband.

True love scam is carried out by a con man –  A con man is a sociopath.

Thank you for your courage, commitment and hard work, very well done and critically important to prevent future scams, helping prevent more trauma and tragedy. Hard to say, but you are lucky you made it out alive. The sociopath’s ruse is deception upon deception. Since people are objects they are disposable to the sociopath. Not all allow their prey to live to tell the tale. Your work may save lives … More. ~ Dr. Deborah Ettel, Ph.D. Psychology

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Sociopaths are heartless, pretending, parasites who cannot love.

Sociopaths lie as easily and automatically as we breathe. Also with the same necessity. Sociopaths lie for survival. Lying is their income, their persona – their entire existence – their normal. Their brain is different from a measurable biological standpoint. There are male sociopaths and female sociopaths. Either way, they know they’re monsters. They enjoy it. They love who they are; they do not love anyone or anything else – not even us.

Everything is a lie, an untruth, a misdirect.

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People ask: Didn’t you know he was a con man?!
Answer: No. I didn’t.
I thought he was my dream man.

I fell in love in seconds, so deeply, over the moon. A symptom of the sociopath’s profound mesmerizing effect on their prey. We met and married in seven days. Ten months later – looking into the eyes of a scary-scary stranger – I told him to leave. In complete terror, pulling faith, courage and wisdom from my life to untangle the surreal nightmare faux-lationship I took back my life.

Over three days time, stark proof came to light: I was married to a monster. I dug into my practice of SGI, Nichiren Buddhism, chanting early each morning, three successive days to know the truth, bringing an escalation of horrific reveals each day and a shrieking-silent avalanche of ten days of terror. – He knew that I knew what he was. – To protect myself I played dumb: faked regret, tears and submission – I lied – turning his myopic self-interest and vanity to my advantage to get him out. Then the real fear came.

The next year and a half was challenging the impossible, facing bone deep fear, undoing his damage, discovering wives, abandoned children, fiances, business scams, large-scale fraud and even links to deaths of innocent victims involved with him. He fled to nine countries – hopping from place, to place, to place – circling back and forth, attempting to out run his lies and deception. He hides on a tiny Caribbean island, where surely he’ll wear out his welcome. 

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This is the best website I’ve found regarding what I just went through. It’s made me see that I did nothing wrong and I’m not crazy. I sat here and kept saying “Yes!” because I went through so many of the things in your article for the past year and a half with my “boyfriend.” Thank you for making sense of everything I was wondering about. ~ L.R.

Love your website. It’s really the only one, and I’ve read many, that makes sense to me. You really delve into areas that other website authors on narcissism and sociopaths haven’t touched upon. Thanks! ~ H.G.

I have read all the articles on your blog and they really helped me understand what I was dealing with, and I’ve been no contact for 6 months!! ~ R.J.

Fantastic article! So many truths & keys to unlock & regain YOURSELF back!! ~ R.D.O. (Why do We Believe the Lies of a Sociopath)

Excellent writing, accurate information! ~ E. (You Know He’s a Con Man If…)

Invaluable! Reinforces my resolve. ~ S.S (What is No Contact?)

I’m amazed at the personal growth and changes in myself. Thank you for your kind words and support and tools for recovery. (PTSD After a Sociopath) ~ L.L.

Wow! Your articles are spot on – really useful and to the point. ~ E.G. (Dating After Dating a Sociopath)

Your website is a wonderful lifeline and helped me realize I am not alone.  I applaud you for addressing this horror in our society and giving us all some support and validation to what we have all gone through with these monsters.  I can’t thank you enough and will continue to follow you!   ~ T.P.

Your understanding and clear explanations comes across so well in your articles, it all finally makes sense to me. So glad to have found this site, thank you. ~ R.C.

It took me a long time to realize that I was NOT alone in suffering with this as the PTSD exhibited itself a year after I left. (PTSD is a Thing After Life with a Sociopath) ~ Overcoming People with Authentic Love – OPAL, Facebook Page

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