Life and true love scam with a sociopath is a world of hell.
They drag us though 5 stages of true love scam.
Always. This is all there is. Always.
Sociopaths are always, always looking for new targets. They hunt prey 24/7. There is no such thing as off duty in their mission to find more resources, they constantly need more people to take advantage of. Scamming is their means of survival. Their minds are constantly occupied with getting what they want and not getting caught.
Sociopaths are called con artists because of their seeming “artistry” in scamming.
In actuality they’re pretty clumsy.
When we meet a new person we want to be pleasant and leave it at that. Friendship with normal people goes at an easy pace and blossoms naturally with mutual interest and effort on both sides. Not so in the world of a sociopath. The sociopath has one thing in mind: To take as much as possible.
5 Stages of True Love Scam
Win Trust Smear
Once we look like a good, empathetic, possibility, sociopaths embed themselves in our lives by winning out trust.- Not to hard since trusting is normal. They take – we’re giving – without realizing the dynamics for what they are. Sociopaths reestablish our trust over and over as they take from us simultaneously. We don’t know how much they’re taking until the end.
The last two stages of true love scam are happening while we’re with them – usually all at the same time. – Again we have no idea this is happening – until we catch a glimpse of it as we start to unravel the insanity. Smearing can go on and on and on, even long after they’re gone.
Sociopaths are able to spot victims as easily as you and I breathe.
They learn what works. They cannot survive without us.
How Sociopaths Pull in Targets – 5 Stages of True Love Scam
Sociopaths Assess Targets
Each person an antisocial psychopath meets is an object. – An animated object to serve their purpose – or not. Period. That is it. They do not have friends. They do not care for anyone. A sociopath’s interest in another human being is sort of like our need for a pair of garden shears, or an umbrella, or a blender – only their need for us is primal and a matter of their own existence or nonexistence.
A sociopath wants us to like them so they can use us.
How a Sociopath Wins our Trust
To win trust sociopaths pose as trustworthy, in need and grateful. One common sociopath antic is to borrow money and repay it to appear trustworthy in either love or in business scams. They tell sob stories too, tales of abuse and betrayal. This is a lie to test our empathy and draw out a (false) sense of intimacy and connection. — We believe them because in the normal world people don’t lie as a way of life. – In the normal world people trust and love.
They’ll generously pay for elaborate dinners, wine and gifts.
They’ll buy the groceries, pay the rent or mortgage and talk about many things they plan to do. They’ll fix things around the house. Buy us gifts. Their attention can be overwhelming, their enthusiasm contagious. We’re pretty excited.
Sociopaths Take and Steal Things and Influence Us to Give
We’ll be laughing with joy at this amazing true love.
They’ll be laughing at how easy we are to scam.
While we’re looking straight into the fantasy life spun for us – our true love will take as much as possible. We’re “giving” as normal people do and are in relationships – then, we feel like we’re in it alone; the only one building the relationship or contributing. Bit by bit they worm into a kind of control of our lives in minor or major ways. A lot of the control comes out of our emotional and mental confusion. – They expect that we gradually see what’s really happening.
They know we’re going to see through them – this is when they bind us more deeply.
Male sociopaths might make sure we have their child. They’ll ingratiate themselves to any children we already have. They’ll act kindly towards younger children – until they don’t – then they tend to physically and emotionally abuse them. They may work to remove our children from the equation – especially older children who could influence us away from the sociopath. Female sociopaths marry and have children only as a meal ticket.
Mean while they ruin us behind our back. And rip out our heart.
Sociopaths Ruin Prey Financially, Emotionally, Physically
The sociopath digs deeper to ruin our lives, taking more, faster. They might not be home much anymore. Or spend the night somewhere else under some pretense – sociopaths are fairly decent story tellers. They’re not filling the gas tank anymore. They’re mean. They ignore us. They borrow money but don’t pay it back or just take money. The sex gets stranger and stranger or nonexistent. They start telling us we’re fat or stupid.
Apologies are as rare as feathered fish.
And just as genuine.
All their relationships are heartless and parasitic. They do not love us. They wine and dine other women and men while they’re with us, just as they did with us in the early stages. It’s essential for the antisocial psychopath to keep hoards of victims at a time for their current livelihood and for the upcoming months and years.
They feel no positive, connecting, human emotions – no affection, no love, no concern, no conscience. Even sex is only for control or a high for the sociopath – a primal, raw drug. Sex is a relief from their flat-line boredom. Sex binds victims to them. Withholding sex binds us too. Sociopaths have no sexual boundaries.
They know we know something is wrong.
They’re working quickly to get as much as they can before they exit.
At this point – we feel horrible. Despair. Sadness. We know something is truly wrong. Take action immediately. Follow your instincts. Undo any access they have to bank accounts, credit cards, or anything else you own.
Sociopaths leave us holding the bag.
They take responsibility for nothing.
When we recognize that our dream man or woman is actually a monster they openly, boldly show us who they are. They will brazenly take more. They will laugh as they do it. They’ll take even more behind our back before they exit. A lot more. This is when the deeper financial damage happens.
For many of us, one specific thing a sociopath does breaks the trance utterly. It may be a lie so obvious the façade shatters. It may be discovery of theft or another woman or children. – Whatever breaks the momentum of the spell for you, trust yourself. Leave. Get him out. Be safe. Do not hesitate, find out how to break-up.
Meanwhile they’ve gotten everyone around us to think they’re great.
Sociopaths and the Smear Campaign
Smearing is the final act in the 5 stages of love scam. The last scene in the sociopath’s predictable behavior. They want to get even and turn the tables. They may try to get a restraining order on us or threaten arrest or violence. They’ll tell others things like we’re mentally ill or on drugs, a liar or a stalker. They might post horrible things about us online. They’ll want everyone to think we treated them badly.
We Have the Power to Leave a Sociopath
We’ll find ourselves in intense anxiety and distress.
They want all things to seem like our fault. They paint themselves as the victim.
When a sociopath is losing their hold on a target they get M.A.D. When they are threatened or feel in danger of exposure a sociopath can become violent. They do rash and irrational things to prevent going to jail, being exposed or losing something they’ve gained.
Study up, talk it out with those who know. Muster the courage to take practical action and make a complete recovery. We will survive and thrive.
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