Am I Dating a Sociopath…?
Here’s the thing. If we’re wondering if the guy or girl we’re dating is a sociopath it means things are bad. Right? It means we’re feeling icky. It means we’re unhappy. It means he or she is treating us badly. It means we feel more yucky than good. Does is matter if we’re dating a sociopath?
How yucky do we have to feel for it to be enough?
If it’s sad and bad – If it’s wrong – it’s wrong. Does it matter if the other person is a sociopath or maybe just a run of the mill you-know-what? – In the case of bad boyfriends – we can’t change them. In the case of a sociopath – they cannot change. Ever.
It’s exhausting and damaging to continue examining traits of sociopaths and trying to estimate if the louse on the couch – or who just walked out the door – is a sociopath or not. We really can recognize when we’re being treated badly by a sociopath or any guy. Let’s skip the bad altogether. Escaping the charms and hypnotic pull of a sociopath is HUGE. We need all the ammunition we can muster. Maybe embedding in our minds what real true love looks like can help.
Being with a sociopath, or a bad guy or girl, diminishes our memory of what being with someone good is all about.
REAL True Love is out there. There’s a book that is an über feel-good reminder of what it feels like when love is normal. It’s called “He’s Just Not That Into You”, written by Greg Behrendt, former writer on the early 2000’s HBO show “Sex and the City“. This book made me feel good about being female and was a reminder of what love feels like when it’s good.
“He’s Just Not That Into You” is a reminder of our value.
This may be an unlikely title. It’s a GREAT Book!!
As Greg says: Don’t waste the pretty!
Because, really, after all – when we’re asking: Am I dating a sociopath? — Does it matter? If it hurts isn’t that enough? – Give our best beauty pageant wave and say good-bye to Mr. Wrong and remember what REAL True Love is all about.
To know in our bones and recognize a sociopath
on sight Reframe the Nightmare with a Sociopath.
Dating is not a healing method.
Here’s to REAL True Love and Happiness!
Time to Thrive!
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