Jennifer Smith

October 5, 2016

Under the mask, behind the charm lurks the real-deal Monster.
The sociopath-demon comes into view.
Then ducks behind a curtain of pretty only to flash a thigh of evil.


4a67a6b64637481bea52e414428d5704At first blush a true love scamming sociopath appears charming. Kind. Gentle. Genuine. So sincere our hearts hurt. So devastatingly moving we’re humbled in openings of moments we’ve never seen before and what seem to be realizations about them, about ourselves – about how to be human – that endear us more deeply to them.

In stunned awe, an elevated in-and-out of focus sensation overtakes us – an infusion of imaginings washes through us as we grant them immunity in our hearts musing: They’re better people than we are.

If we could revisit those times – we might see that gaping-slit in the fabric of reality for what it is: an opening to hell. A black cavernous infinite hole into the pits of despair.

It feels, somewhere in the cruise-control upper part of our mind, like a view into good we have not yet known. – The millisecond flare is so quick – and we’re interpreting from our own goodness – with no clue that something so vile walks the earth. It’s no wonder we can’t see it… until. Until. We. Do.

We Can’t Recognize Something We Don’t Know Exists

We do finally see them. 

img-thingIt’s said we can see only what we know. And so it goes that the ships of invaders into North America couldn’t be seen by the inhabitants on shore because no one had known such a thing existed – until a Shaman, divined them shimmering from mirage into a shape. An unrecognizable something. An unknown, assumed good and even God-like from their own benevolent perspective giving the strange-strangers the generosity of benefit of the doubt.

They had to learn the hard way that these shiny beings, like them, but entirely unlike them, in gigantic fantastical floating vessels emerging up and toward them from the watery horizon as if delivered by the unseen beneficent powers of life were not benevolent – but were bearers of rage, disease and destruction.

We can see only what we know. Connect the dots.

And, so it is in life with a Sociopath.
That glittering being is a devil in disguise. – Now we know.

Sociopaths Live in Constant Fear of Discovery

Sociopaths live in a paradoxical reality – a contradictory flip-flopping and internal push-me-pull-you in reaction to who’s present or what’s going on around them in a constant attempt to stay hidden, stay unrecognizable – to keep people trusting them and keep getting the things they need to survive.

Sociopaths are unstable. Their world is house-of-cards fragile. Their posing is easy to topple. Here are 5 hidden traits of a sociopath that are their Achilles heel.  – Traits we know well, though we might not have named them, if we’ve lived through the nightmare of knowing one. And in the case of a sociopath – knowing one – truly is knowing all.

5 Hidden Paradoxical Traits of a Sociopath

Constant fear of being caught. Alternating with a flamboyant confidence in fooling people with their bragaddociousness.

Mentally inflexible. Are greatly startled by unfamiliar situations causing them to flail and change course or alter previously stated beliefs or convictions. And can hold onto a point of contention like a wild dog with a bone.

Easily distracted. Fixated on one target then distracted by another and another from moment to moment juxtaposed with an underlying unwavering fantastical “goal” derived from their grandiose perception of themselves and follow an improvisational rather than planned approach to the “goal”.

No nuance of emotion. Swings between highs when winning and dark lows when failing in scams and deception – their “home base” is a vapid nothing.

Believe other people’s lies. Their world is lies. If presented with a lie from someone else rather than act on it or call it out as a lie they go along with it as a reality. – The more fantastical the lie the more they buy into it.

Use the Sociopaths Weakness to Break Free Forever

Use their myopic minds against them for our safety.

Let’s transform the experience. Let’s make use of it. Because for all our compassion and empathy — isn’t it useless or even harmful without wisdom…? Let’s embrace ourselves with compassion and awaken our courage forged in this fire of newfound wisdom. Understand there’s much to stand up for: our very lives, our goodness. Humanity. We must win always, as the sun out shines the night stars to bring us day.

Here’s to REAL True Love and Happiness!

Time to Thrive!

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