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Boundaries, rules, etiquette, manners,
behavior we expect and approve and accept.
They’ve been here in societies and cultures forever.
Why are we suddenly talking about “boundaries”?
And shaming some for not “having boundaries”
meant to stop others from bad behavior?

Let’s talk about “boundaries”. This is another current term and concept that drives me bonkers. Here’s why: “boundaries” is a concept that has come up only relatively recently. Its appearance is a piece of the human attempt to figure out and manage those who don’t heed natural and normal boundaries.

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We think it’s love but fall into a world of hell.
A hell that for all its pain, we can recover from.

True love scam as a reality – beyond scary movies and television shows – is coming into focus like never before. How bizarre it feels to know something’s wrong, something needs to be fixed but you can’t pinpoint what it is or name it.

Finding yourself in a relationship nightmare as I did in 2012, you likely whipped out your laptop or smartphone to google away for answers. This search for information begins for most of us when you’re feeling that something’s wrong, yet you can’t put your finger on it, and nothing you do changes it, or makes things better.