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Am I Dating a Sociopath?

Dating someone a little odd..?
In a foggy kind of confusion?
This is a sign that you’re dating a sociopath.

Am I dating a sociopath…? Has this horrifying notion suddenly appeared in your mind? Feeling uneasy along with the excitement of meeting someone new means something. This thought rises up to our conscious mind from our gut. And it freaks us out. It feels quite icky.

This voice from the gut is telling us something our mind can’t formulate, but our bodies know. Our body is trying to tell us that this uneasiness stems from them. We need to trust our gut. – If only it were that simple…

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How Do I Know I’m Dating a Sociopath?

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If you’re Googling for answers,
If you’ve begun to think of your date as a “narcissist”,
you’re dating a sociopath.

How do you know you’re dating a sociopath…? First of all, sociopath is a big scary word. But, the thing is, if we’re Googling for answers about the new beau who we’ve begun to think might be a “narcissist” and gathering information on that, we’re absolutely going to come up against some misleading (and just plain wrong) information.

Saying this is not to dismiss the colossal efforts put in by everyone trying to figure this out on socials and websites and in books, and YouTube, and TikTok, and podcasts who coined the term “narcissist” and shaded their definitions with hope.

Yes, out of normal and natural human hope that the monster that sent them searching for answers was at least partially human, collectively we’ve put out some faulty information for truly saving our lives. Let’s talk about it…

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Sociopaths’ Sexual Boundaries

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Sociopaths’ sexual boundaries.
Vague, twisting, bending, illusion.
Sociopaths’ gender and sexuality isn’t fluid, it’s manufactured.

Sociopaths’ sexual boundaries change with their prey. That person you’re calling a “narcissist” or even a sociopath that is, is changeable sexually. What I mean by this is, they decide prey by prey how much of their debauchery and what “flavor” of their sexuality to let out of the bag.

Though we might see them as one thing sexually, as preferring a certain type of sexual expression they each have habits and tendencies that are not shown to each of their prey. These parasitic predators retain hidden netherworlds that not all of us, as their “girlfriend”, “boyfriend” or “spouse” is shown.

Their sexual boundaries, sexuality, and their sexual expression as presented to each prey are a part of what they use to bind people to them. Let’s look further into this…

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Why Are Sociopaths “Antisocial”?

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Why are sociopaths called antisocial?
These freaks love to party and hang.
They chat, charm, dance, and joke.
Why do we call them “antisocial” when in fact,
they can’t survive without using other people.

Why Are Sociopaths Called Antisocial?

So… why are sociopaths medically called “antisocial psychopaths” or persons of “antisocial personality disorder” and “sociopaths” as a more colloquial term? This is an important question because rejecting this term “antisocial” places a roadblock to understanding what happened to us.

Dismissing the intricacies and hideous truth of what an antisocial psychopath is takes us away from recovering our lives after a hijacking by one of these deceivers. When looking for answers, misinterpreting the meaning of “antisocial” can take us down a long, wrong turn.

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How to Avoid a Narcissist

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What happened? Are we narcissist-magnets?
Do we attract these parasitic predators?
The truth is, it isn’t our “fault”.
We can avoid a narcissist.

How to avoid a narcissist… Firstly, those of us who know how to recognize a predatory parasite are as close to immune to being entrapped as a normal human can be. Knowledge leads to being able to avoid a narcissist. And, by “narcissist”, we mean a parasitic predator.

If you’re here because you’re getting away from one of these beasts, it’s common to feel it was your fault. If you’re fortunate in that you haven’t been sucked in by one, it’s easy to decide that someone who is sucked in is at fault.

All around us, we find messaging and even might believe that falling under the spell of a pathological parasitic predator- a narcissist, is our fault. A little knowledge goes a long way in avoiding a narcissist, and a great place to start is understanding that it isn’t our fault.

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Do Narcissists Know They’re Narcissists?

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Do parasitic predators know
that they’re parasitic predators?
In the aftermath, our pain is colossal.
Spinning in among all that pain
is a question that, if answered,
carries much of our recovery with it.

While talking with people in guided recovery sessions, often- when a level of awakening to what happened and why reaches a certain place, I’m asked a major question. That question is: Do they know…do they know what they are?

It’s gratifying and a relief to hear this question, because this question is a sign that the person I’m supporting in taking back their life has made a massive breakthrough. Here in this article, I’m going to give my two-cents, but more importantly, I’m going to let one of these nut bags answer that for you.

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Weird Stuff They Say

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The weird stuff they say haunts us.
We do our best to tuck it away, but it pokes out.
That stuff is the truth that can set us free.

Weird stuff they say haunts us. What’s up with “the boyfriend”, “husband”, “wife”, “girlfriend” (the pathological parasitic predator), and the weird things they say? Why do they talk a lot, but say one thing and then a different version another time? And then there’s the glittery hints of promises. Mutterings about marriage, kids, a house, something they’ll never do- like cheat or lie.

Typically, they tell lots of stories about other people; things those people did and said, along with lots of bad things about others. When we begin to question some of the things they do, their talk is peppered with denials about what was said or done. And eventually, there’s telling us we’re crazy. – But it’s the really weird stuff they say that haunts us most.

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Sociopaths’ and Sex: The Spider and The Fly

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Sociopaths’ sex lives are rumored as “great”.
In real life, they’re a hotbed of lies and cognitive dissonance.

Sociopaths’ sex lives are integral to their survival. Really. After all, sex renders prey usable. In other words, sex is a major tool in the parasitic predators snag-and-use-tool-kit. Not to mention what a tool every sociopath is if you’ll pardon the pun.

Whatever you might call them, think of their behavior, the way they treat you, and consider them as parasitic predators without a heart, a conscience, or a caring bone in their body.

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Dating After Dating a “Narcissist”

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Dating after dating a loser we call a “narcissist”?
How do we know when we’re ready?
That last mess wasn’t even a relationship.
It was an invasion, a robbery, a hijacking.

Dating after dating a sociopath – or that person you’re thinking is a “narcissist” – is a serious undertaking. How do we know when we’re ready? After living through the nightmare and coming out the other side after escaping…

When can we date again? Let’s find out, and here’s a hint: Dating again takes knowing what happened. If we think they only wanted “control”, we don’t know enough to date.

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Valentine’s Day and Gaslighting

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Valentine’s Day is full of expectations.
For those in the nightmare of coercive control,
the approach of February 14th is painful

Valentine’s Day is on the way! There’s nothing we can do to hold it back, but hold on to your heart and your reason, because here comes that made-up BS holiday when we potentially could lose both. Before you get sentimental and break no contact, maybe read this bit here…