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Sociopaths’ Sexual Traits: 20 Characteristics

Deception Isn’t Sexy

These freaks take advantage of our normalness. This combined with their innate and natural power of influence, and our lack of understanding that they exist and what that means: we’re bound.

The thing is, there isn’t anything going on with one of these characters originating in a pure purpose or from a relatable kind of motivation. Not unless we include eating, sleeping, and using the facilities. This is where they stop being anything close to wholesome or normal.

Nothing a sociopath or that person you’re calling a narcissist or narc does is motivated by, inspired by, or grounded in the same things we care about or consider important. This is incredible to take in. And there’s nothing more confounding and painful in these faux-lationships than the sexual traits of a sociopath. If you’re recognizing these traits in the narc or narcissist, consider thinking of them as a sociopath for deeper understanding and an expanded change of healing and freedom.

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20 Sexual Traits of a Sociopath

Dr. Robert Hare is famous for putting together the “sociopath checklist“. The now well-known list of 20 characteristics of an antisocial psychopath, the sociopath aka psychopath.

Dr. Hare’s list is developed from his own years of clinical research of mainly imprisoned sociopaths. There are a lot of them behind bars.

However, his list is missing personal detail. And rightly so, since his list isn’t based on living with one, dating one, marrying one, or having a child with one of these surreal beasts.

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Unless You’ve Been In It You Don’t Know It

Neither did Dr. Hare suffer the economic disaster of sharing a life with one under the umbrella and spell of their influence and fraud. And I’m guessing he didn’t sleep with one, because – if so – Dr. Hare’s sociopath checklist is missing a few things.

Dr. Hare’s Sociopath Checklist Is Missing a Few Things

Sociopaths Sexual Traits

20 Traits of Sociopaths’ Sexuality:

Reluctant Virgin: Some sociopaths claim sexual inexperience or innocence or (fake) religious beliefs to hold off on sex and keep from having sex. This can be a great ploy for the female sociopath to entice prey into a marriage with a “virgin bride”. This false stance works equally well when claimed by the male sociopath and is commonly used by any sociopath or narcissist.

Another element of pain within this setup is that the normal woman or man that they present this lie to then feels really badly about themselves and shame or embarrassed for wanting sexual intimacy. – It also makes the normal and deceived person try harder to make the relationship work. This “trying harder” doesn’t go unnoticed by the predator.

The nut job pathological user simply wants out of having sex with us; they have though definitely noticed that this false claim of sexual reluctance and innocence tames and subdues their prey.

After all, which of us normal people can go against someone’s religious beliefs or sexual inexperience, when both of these are socially and culturally touted as “good”? We’re not going to balk at that but try to meet it. – So much malarkey.

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Lights, Camera, Action!

The Producer: Make no mistake, even while playing the reluctant virgin with one target, the very same sociopath might be the producer in the bedroom with another target.

Taking photos and videos of themselves, and of the person they’ve roped into their spell who’s sprawled spread-eagle, or backside-up, or in some other compromising and irregular position much to their own surprise is the order of the day for the sexual “producer”. These escapades often include the introduction of forced consumption of drugs or alcohol.

Turn Over Rover

They Like The Backside of Things: Male sociopaths have a thing for anal sex. Not all of us are shown this “delightful” (not) trait. Many of us are shown this either in practice or the wishes they directly express or we suspect it.

Are Against Homosexuality: Oh, good gravy… What’s that phrase about protesting too much? Well, they do it. Male sociopaths proclaim to be “against being gay” or that they don’t “believe in” homosexuality. They say that they think it’s a sin, a “choice”, and anything else to put it down and play it down and scandalize it.

These sentiments might not be expressed often, but always emphatically. And they tell stories about it. And ask questions about it. More like they’re fascinated by it… and do it.

It Isn’t Personal

They abandon our bed. There are excuses they make for leaving the “couple bed”. Or not. They just do it.

Have Sex With Any Gender: Unbeknownst to us, they are out there, doing it with pretty much anyone of absolutely any gender under the sun. In essence, sociopaths are genderless themselves.

Any Age Fills the Bill: Children, adults, teens, older, elderly… it matters little. Any person is viable prey.

So Many, So Many People All at Once: Sociopaths are very, very busy ensnaring prey. It is literally their job. And sex is the number one tool to bring in and land prey. In any given week the number of people they’re sexually active with is potentially unlimited. And then in some cases, they seem to sit home and remain sexually-solo in front of their laptops.

Sociopaths Bind Prey with Sex

Sex is a Binding Tool: These people need us. We don’t need them. Sexual encounters mean something to us and also, quite conveniently for the sociopath, have an actual physiological effect on us that inspires a deep bond within us towards the person we do it with. – They don’t bond, they bind.

These freaks take advantage of our normalness. This combined with their innate and natural power of influence, and our lack of understanding that they exist and what that means: we’re bound. Sex is a powerful binding tool.

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Sex Is Not Out of Love: They don’t love anyone. Really. This is so hard to take. These nut bags are not “attracted” to anyone.

They Make No Eye Contact: During sex forget about long, loving eye gazing. Even in daily life the sociopath rarely looks us in the eye. When they do it’s because they’re gleaning info about how to snag and pass as normal people “better” in order to make more use and for longer of real and normal people

During sex, they might look at us, or in our direction, but truly their million-yard stare is aimed off who-knows-where into the distance. Some of us are given a deep and scary stare that goes right through us.

Sociopaths Withhold Sex

Withhold Sex: Unbelievably, while they need sexual contact with their prey in order to ensnare them into one-on-one personal love scams, they don’t really like this sex. The sociopath, seen as so sexual and “so good at sex”, has no actual desire to knock boots with us.

We see through them, or we ask so many questions they falter in their confidence that they can carry on the fraud. They end it or we do because these things can’t last.

It’s extremely common that the sociopath, both male, and female, withdraws sexual activity from primary prey once we’re established in their lives. that is once we’re months into a “relationship” where we live together.

What’s happening is that as soon as we’re locked in after that first solid few weeks, their sexual capacity and quota are going to other places to bind other newer prey. They don’t like to do more work than needed. In light of this and as a common-sense aspect in anyone’s life: they need to put their time and attention where it brings them benefit.

And omg, does this sudden slide into being rejected or ignored sexually make us sad! It confounds us. It leaves us – naturally and bizarrely – finding signs of true love in small things, such as in the way they make us coffee in the morning. Or layout our workout clothes. Or kiss the dog goodbye before they go out. Uuuuhhhhg. This is a natural and normal human response to declare markers of their affection in other places when they turn off the sex.

There’s No Protection From Their Side

Do Not Wear Condoms: When they do get down to it they aren’t wearing a sheath. The nutter I was married to carried condoms with him everywhere. In his pocket were gold foil-wrapped Trojans.

To my knowledge, he never unwrapped one and applied it to his body. And I talked with three of the women he was preying upon, so that confirmed at least four of us all at once. There were more. There are always more.

STDs Are Another One of Their Secrets: If (when) they get one we won’t know unless we get it from them or are contacted by someone else who did. These nutbags just are not going to tell us. So many surreptitious STD exams go on in their world. They know they have an illness, they don’t care if we get it.

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Sociopaths and Erectile Dysfunction (Non-function)

Sociopaths Can’t Keep It Up: Well, yah… I mean, realize, they aren’t genuinely into it in an emotional way. They don’t experience “attraction” in the way that we do. So… Once the excitement of entrapping someone is over, things can go pretty limp.

Viagra Is Their Middle Name: So many of them just can’t do it or keep things up without chemical aids. Viagra is common. Then there’s the darker side including MDMA, GHB/GBL, or something to knock us out such as a roofie cocktail, maybe weed laced with ketamine so that they can do things that should not ever be done to anyone or so that we don’t notice there was no sex.

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Threesomes: And polyamory or swinger parties. Open marriages, swaps. Polyamory. (Eye roll.) The introduction of these things by telling us a story about other people who do this is bait. It’s a way to talk about what they do and have done and to monitor how we feel about it. They want to feel us out to see if we might join in. They want to discover if they need to keep these habits of theirs under wraps or if they can admit to it and we’ll still stay hooked.

Sleep in Another Room: They abandon our bed. There are excuses they make for leaving the “couple bed”. Or not. They just do it. It happens in the case of primary prey, meaning us who see ourselves as the spouse or domestic partner. Those of us in these live-in or marriage roles are mostly sleeping solo. Sex is withheld or severely modified down to next to nothing. Be glad about this. Be glad. This is the best it could be for your emotional, mental and physical health.

Porn Night and Day

Porn, Morning, Noon, and Night: Good gravy. We might see this. Maybe we discover it after they’re gone. Sometimes we’re asked to partake in it, however, usually, it’s their private, secret – obsessive – sexual activity. Within the realm of porn, anything goes and the sociopath will have a specific penchant. MW, MM, WW, kids, animals, “shemales”, ladyboys with all the options and whatever their “thing” is.

BDSM, Debauchery, Degradation: Bondage, dominance, sadism, masochism, h.i.d.e.o.u.s form of making use of others and for getting off on harming others. There are some who ask to be pooped on, peed on, and Heaven’s to Betsy, whatever else they think of. This dynamic is often induced with the aid of varying drugs or alcohol.

Prostitutes: They can easily go to them. They can easily sell themselves if it’s their thing. Being an “escort” is an easy-peasy job for them. It’s all about pretending anyway.

The Sad Truth Serves Up Freedom

In all of this, there are only a few variations. The truth of it is, every sociopath is alike in motivation, thinking, beliefs that “everything is theirs” and that supreme sense of their own amazingness.

These people of psychopathy vary one from the other only in a few ways. They vary in: how much drug use, how much violence and when, the depths of their sexual deep-end, the law-book crimes in their repertoire, the number of kids, spouses and fiances and significant others they have at any one time or tucked in their “past”.

Also if they gamble or not (seems to be an either-or), how many places they live at once, how many towns, cities, or countries they function within. You get the scene here. This stuff isn’t a maybe, it’s how much.

Win As We Untangle the Deception

As hard and gross and sickening as this is to take in, I hope that for each and every one of us reading this there’s some validation in seeing that you’re not the only one with this experience. We weren’t “devalued” though we felt that way. We weren’t “discarded” though it can seem so and hurts. The reality is: the sociopath failed and bailed.

The jig is up. It ends. We see through them, or we ask so many questions they falter in their confidence that they can carry on the fraud. They end it or we do because these things can’t last. These are crimes of deception rather than relationships. Their reason for being here is not the same as ours.

Let’s win by using this nightmare to serve the function of leading us to expand our lives. Embrace and deepen our own amazing capacity for bonding, love, and trust. We’re connecting, beautiful, and good inside and out. Wrap your own sweet self with compassion.

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Sex as a Tool: Binding Prey

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Binding prey is a 24-hour
a day job for predators.
Pathological predators and parasites
are the slimy creatures
we call narcs and narcissists
and indeed, they are sociopaths.

We think we’ve found a perfect match. A relationship made in heaven. This fades as we discover something else is happening here.

This time – don’t believe their ridiculous words. Go with your gut. Grab that uneasy feeling and hold onto it. That off the ground feeling is in fact where the truth lives.

Binding prey is paramount to a predator’s survival. Sex, for a sociopath, is a tool, a very important tool. Because binding prey is reliant on sex. And though the word on the street is that sociopaths are great at sex, this – like everything else about them, is a buncha hooey.

Most sociopaths are quite bad at sex. (“Narcissists” if that’s your terminology of choice for the pathological user who hijacked your life.)

The real thing is: using sex as a tool to bind other humans so that you can make use of them for your own purposes is not allowed to be called: being great at sex. – No, it’s a crime. It’s called misrepresentation, fraud, and coercion; it’s rape.

Binding and Winding is The Sociopaths Way of Life

Sociopaths – you might call them a narc, a narcopath, or a narcissist – all spend the hours of all their days binding prey. And they all have lots of people they’re ensnaring at one time.

It’s necessary that they keep a flock of prey; real people who think they are this person’s girlfriend, boyfriend, fiancé, or spouse, or partner.

None of us are any of this. We are not girlfriends, boyfriends, partners, or spouses. We aren’t finances. No matter how much we felt it, no matter how much lived as if we were that from our side of things… We are each and only prey. Not one of us deserved this. We didn’t make this happen. – It’s them and what they are.

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Pathological Predators: People Who Make Use of Others

The predator keeps a grip on what we could call, birds-of-every-feather. There’s the party person, the public-respectability-facade-spouse person. And the side-dish house-mouse who cooks, cleans, does laundry, and waits at home.

There are so many people in the lives of the user; the causal friends they date, the finances. And then there are the people who open a business with them or work for them or give them a job. And those who unwittingly provide the cash-ola they go on benders with.

They’ve always got the down-low raunchy person who they let it all out with. Usually – okay – let’s be real: always, there is more than one person who fills each of these roles for the pathological user, all at one time.

Binding Prey: Withholding Sex and Intimacy

Any of us relegated as live-in prey within the sociopath’s realm, we know the real deal. We know that behind the pretty face of it, that inside the house: We sleep in separate rooms.

The thing is: There is no sex. And this in itself makes sex a tool that binds prey. Most of us are left sad and hurting wondering wtf! when a sociopath withholds sexual intimacy. There’s a reason they stop the sex. There’s a reason it makes us sad.

Again, in our way of normal thinking, we first look to ourselves. We reflect on ourselves as the reason they turn away and sleep down the hall.

Or on the couch. Or in the kids’ room. We feel deeply wounded that it’s something about us that has them not wanting us. And our natural feeling and thinking and our natural trusting conclusions are encouraged by them.

Normal Looks For Solutions and Takes Responsibility

As normal people, we look for a magnanimous, generous reason that takes any fault away from the person we don’t yet know is a sociopath. Being refused and rejected in sexual intimacy causes harm. It leads us to think we’re the problem and this becomes a double helix of trauma.

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This is normal. And rubbish. We are not at fault… They’re the cause of every drop of everything that’s wrong. Their reason for being with us is not for the reason we’d imagine in a normal relationship.

They know this isn’t a relationship in the way we naturally assume it to be one. We assume responsibility for being rejected as if all the things that are tilted, off, weird, strange, odd, full of holes, make us feel like we’re not on solid ground, and the constant confusion is our own fault.

They’re all for this because this buys a pathological user lots more time to make more use of us.

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We Look for Explanations for Their Abnormal Sexual Rejection

As normal people, we take responsibility for all the parts of our relationship. – This is normal. We know in our heart of hearts it can’t just be us. It’s reasonable to look for answers. Considering that there may be something going on with them is what comes next for us.

For me, in my search to explain, find answers, bridge the chasm between his bed and mine and relationship build, Googling along I found something called: sexual anorexia. It’s also called intimacy anorexia. Sociopaths do not have sexual anorexia, which includes sexual addiction and refusal to have sex with primary partners, they’re simply sociopaths.

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When We Think We Know: Think Again

In my story with this predator that I married, thinking that sexual anorexia or intimacy anorexia was the reason he slept in another room brought a shift. I vaulted into another kind of pain and deep, deep sadness.

Though I thought I’d found an answer, geez Louise… What an answer!! My mind raced: Wow. Is this my life? I’d look at him while he jabbered at me, and think: Does my husband have sexual anorexia..? And wonder: How can I bring it up? How can we work through it…?

Questioning and Seeking Takes Us Further

And thankfully I had another thought – a question. This was a saving grace. It left space open to observing rather than diving into working on things. The question was: Do I want to do this…? As I asked myself this question and watched him, he did what every con-artist-user does: He revealed himself to be something beyond even sexual anorexia.

Sex is used to bind prey in the dark and winding, unending vicissitudes of isolated, lonely pain.

He showed instead something unanswered and so strange. At that time as I watched him, it was still indefinable for me… I didn’t know about the reality of psychopaths. I did know the answer to his coming home later and later and then snoring in another room had not been found. So, I kept watching and looking for other answers.

The sadness in this discovery – a discovery I believed to be real for him, was incalculable. The span of time that I did believe this and the destruction he brought in that time was unbelievable. – Don’t worry, my writing about this won’t give sociopaths any new tricks. I’m writing about it for us: They already know about it.

Our Nature and The Sociopaths’ Nature: A Lethal Mix For Us is Survival For Them

These nut jobs have no sexual anorexia or intimacy issues in the scope of something normal. They withhold because they’re not interested in sex in any normal way. Period. Nor are they interested in us in any normal way. Period. Sex for a sociopath, a.k.a. an antisocial psychopath is not at all what it is for normal people.

Sex to the pathological users – and all things and all people – are for their own entertainment or to serve the purpose of bringing them the things they want… Everything they get is taken through deception. Additionally, sex for the sociopath is a psychological release; a high… You know the happy ending.

In heterosexual predatory situations, in which a female sociopath is preying on a normal human male, they are aware that normal human men are easily bound in and mesmerized when they exude sexuality and an interest in sex; by making sexual innuendos, by dressing in sexy clothes, by pretending that they are lusting after the man, and can’t get enough of the man and etc…and by having sex with them. Sorry – but it’s fake. Let’s face it, regular normla men can be pretty delighted to realize this woman will go for anal sex, for porn, for three-somes…for anything and everything. Sure they do, just as male sociopaths do. If a female sociopath thought a man they were preying upon was pious and expected a virgin, they’d play that role. – You may have been treated as as sex doll, just as male sociopaths use some prey as sex dolls: they also both withhold sex from other prey if they want to as a way not to get rid of prey, but to bind them. I’ve had male clinets who were sex dolls, those who were framed for rape, and those who were totally rejected sexually with the same kinds of excuses male sociopaths give to female prey to get out of sex. – Both male and female sociopaths don’t use condoms. Females do this frequently in order to gain a baby… Babies equal money and property to them. (They also don’t mind having abortions if that’s the direction they go; there’s also the morning after pill.) Indeed all sociopaths have no limits. Many use lots of drugs, some don’t. All sociopaths have sex with any gender and will do anything. Literally: sociopaths will be or can be sexual with any gender, any age, any species with equal ease. – In actual fact: male and female sociopaths are mentally identical. They are identical because they have the same abnormal brain that is the root of this pathology. – Sociopathy is not “about power”: it’s about taking and using and doing whatever they please. Sociopaths believe everything belongs to them. Their goal is to get your stuff. To use you. And don’t forget: they can’t NOT behave this way. They do not love, like, or care or have any actual emotional attraction to anyone. – Sociopaths despise us. They use sex for their own entertainment, and to bind prey. – Check my other articles about female sociopaths here on my website.

Binding Prey and Rejection Leads Us To Try Harder

For us normal humans, being rejected by them once we’re in this “relationship” dynamic leads us to try harder, to yearn to please them in the weirdest, strangest feeling.

The rejection ignites a desire within us to please them more in every way, in general. We embark on a natural and driven attempt to make things better. There is a feeling of being pulled to please them.

It feels like crap. And we do it. This is normal. You recall that constant duality of “doing” and feeling unhinged at the same time. And so, the pathological lying-user gets a cleaner house, fresher laundry, a better dinner… And most of all: we keep quiet…

Treading more softly, we expect less and don’t bug them as much… And this – this – our shut-mouth – this is what they’re really after. They want us to not bug them so they can do and be what they are: Despicable predatory, parasitic deceivers from hell.

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Sociopaths Often Refuse to Have Sex

Sociopaths put up a front. They say they can’t be intimate because they have trust issues. Some attempt to explain it away by telling stories of an inability to trust because of past betrayal, or being abused.

This is also often their explanation when we discover that they’re “cheating” and realize their sloppily hidden rampant porn use. They hide this all so pathetically poorly.

Our natural and inherently normal trust lets the sociopath off the hook for months or even years. They have no idea what trust is. This time – don’t believe their ridiculous words. Go with your gut. Grab that uneasy feeling and hold onto it. That off-the-ground feeling is in fact where the truth lives.

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We Search For Answers: They Know They’ve Bound Us

We try to find a reason behind the abnormal sexual rejection. They come up with more flimsy and ever-changing reasons for their physical withdrawal from us: Religious beliefs, or health problems, they say it’s us, or they say nothing at all.

The thing is, binding prey was the goal. The sociopath doesn’t need to be binding us with sex. We’re already hooked… They’re very busy binding new prey sexually. The creature is busy having sex with many other women and men. As many as possible. They keep this hidden as much as they can.

Binding Prey: Forced Sex, Bartering, and Threats

The second way that these rotten beings spin their madness binding prey using sex as a tool is horrific and cruel beyond any words. This almost became my story, twice.

My guess is that two of the people I dated in my life, way previous to the sociopath I married, would surely have gone down this road. I didn’t know the word sociopath or psychopath, but I knew danger was buzzing and extricated myself before they got their hooks in.

A psychopath is a sociopath and vice versa. They are both antisocial psychopaths medically. This means they have abnormal brains in their heads. Every thought, word, and deed comes from their abnormal brain. And our not knowing this buys them more time while we suffer in rejection, sadness, pain, and trauma.

They’re Different Than Us Biologically: Yep for Reals

These abnormal brains have them living a life of zero limits as far as what they’ll say or do to get what they want. They have zero genuine regard for anyone outside of themselves. The delineation between psychopaths and sociopaths is found in the depths to which they enjoy others’ pain.

The more they enjoy others’ pain, the more likely they are to use brutal sex to bind prey. Sex is used in bartering for money, allowance, food, permission to go somewhere or see someone, or whatever the psychopath is focused on.

Sexual acts become a bargaining chip, blackmailing leverage, and pure punishment for non-existent crimes. Sex is used to bind prey in the dark and winding, unending vicissitudes of isolated, lonely pain.

This reality of a sociopath can seem incredible to think of as real. But lthink of this… Mental health professionals are not allowed to give the official diagnosis of “antisocial psychopath” to anyone under legal age. Because that’s how serious it is. That’s how permanent it is. And how real it is.

Nothing About This is a Relationship: These are Crimes

The real reason is: they don’t have any emotional connection to us. They do not care for us or about us. There is no love from a sociopath or that person you might be calling a narc or a narcissist but is really a sociopath.

There is no love for anyone. Not a soul. Sex for a sociopath is an unlimited carnal impulse and has the effect of being a tool in order to make use of others as they please – nothing more.

And in real life, this heinous crime can bring on cancer, autoimmune diseases, and of course, STDs are visited upon prey. For anyone who finds themselves pregnant, this is a harrowing dilemma of its own.

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Real Humans Stay and Try

As regular normal humans, when there’s a break-down in the connection between ourselves and our partner, we crave and need an explanation that offers hope for change. Maybe while searching, like me you’ll come across the condition of sexual anorexia. If you do, as I did you’d naturally think: we’ll get through it together.

We believe that then, working together on the issues or problems, things will be amazing. Connection will be restored and deepened. This is how normal humans do it.

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No One Thinks to Leave Before Trying

There’s not a single one of us who has ever been told When you’re in a relationship at the first sign of something you don’t like, end it. Not a single one of us has heard the advice: if things are not perfect, walk out. – So please, stop telling people who find themselves in these hijackings, You should have left.

Be 100% sure this is not what you say to yourself. This is not your fault, you are not to blame… They are monsters and nothing about us makes them one. It takes as long as it takes to break the sociopath-spell.

Normal is Far From This Narcissistic Pathology

There couldn’t be more of a clash between any two things on earth like there is between a sociopath and a normal human. The existence of this kind of human and our differences are only just beginning to come to light.

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