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Am I Dating a Sociopath?

Dating someone a little odd..?
In a foggy kind of confusion?
This is a sign that you’re dating a sociopath.

Am I dating a sociopath…? Has this horrifying notion suddenly appeared in your mind? Feeling uneasy along with the excitement of meeting someone new means something. This thought rises up to our conscious mind from our gut. And it freaks us out. It feels quite icky.

This voice from the gut is telling us something our mind can’t formulate, but our bodies know. Our body is trying to tell us that this uneasiness stems from them. We need to trust our gut. – If only it were that simple…

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How Do I Know I’m Dating a Sociopath?

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If you’re Googling for answers,
If you’ve begun to think of your date as a “narcissist”,
you’re dating a sociopath.

How do you know you’re dating a sociopath…? First of all, sociopath is a big scary word. But, the thing is, if we’re Googling for answers about the new beau who we’ve begun to think might be a “narcissist” and gathering information on that, we’re absolutely going to come up against some misleading (and just plain wrong) information.

Saying this is not to dismiss the colossal efforts put in by everyone trying to figure this out on socials and websites and in books, and YouTube, and TikTok, and podcasts who coined the term “narcissist” and shaded their definitions with hope.

Yes, out of normal and natural human hope that the monster that sent them searching for answers was at least partially human, collectively we’ve put out some faulty information for truly saving our lives. Let’s talk about it…

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Sociopaths’ Sexual Boundaries

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Sociopaths’ sexual boundaries.
Vague, twisting, bending, illusion.
Sociopaths’ gender and sexuality isn’t fluid, it’s manufactured.

Sociopaths’ sexual boundaries change with their prey. That person you’re calling a “narcissist” or even a sociopath that is, is changeable sexually. What I mean by this is, they decide prey by prey how much of their debauchery and what “flavor” of their sexuality to let out of the bag.

Though we might see them as one thing sexually, as preferring a certain type of sexual expression they each have habits and tendencies that are not shown to each of their prey. These parasitic predators retain hidden netherworlds that not all of us, as their “girlfriend”, “boyfriend” or “spouse” is shown.

Their sexual boundaries, sexuality, and their sexual expression as presented to each prey are a part of what they use to bind people to them. Let’s look further into this…

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Weird Stuff They Say

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The weird stuff they say haunts us.
We do our best to tuck it away, but it pokes out.
That stuff is the truth that can set us free.

Weird stuff they say haunts us. What’s up with “the boyfriend”, “husband”, “wife”, “girlfriend” (the pathological parasitic predator), and the weird things they say? Why do they talk a lot, but say one thing and then a different version another time? And then there’s the glittery hints of promises. Mutterings about marriage, kids, a house, something they’ll never do- like cheat or lie.

Typically, they tell lots of stories about other people; things those people did and said, along with lots of bad things about others. When we begin to question some of the things they do, their talk is peppered with denials about what was said or done. And eventually, there’s telling us we’re crazy. – But it’s the really weird stuff they say that haunts us most.

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Sociopaths’ and Sex: The Spider and The Fly

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Sociopaths’ sex lives are rumored as “great”.
In real life, they’re a hotbed of lies and cognitive dissonance.

Sociopaths’ sex lives are integral to their survival. Really. After all, sex renders prey usable. In other words, sex is a major tool in the parasitic predators snag-and-use-tool-kit. Not to mention what a tool every sociopath is if you’ll pardon the pun.

Whatever you might call them, think of their behavior, the way they treat you, and consider them as parasitic predators without a heart, a conscience, or a caring bone in their body.

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Valentine’s Day and Gaslighting

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Valentine’s Day is full of expectations.
For those in the nightmare of coercive control,
the approach of February 14th is painful

Valentine’s Day is on the way! There’s nothing we can do to hold it back, but hold on to your heart and your reason, because here comes that made-up BS holiday when we potentially could lose both. Before you get sentimental and break no contact, maybe read this bit here…

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After No Contact: What’s Next?

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After no contact that’s when we get them out of our bones.
We deliberatly create our recovery
with new info, practical action and time.

After no contact we might think things are going to be amazing! Things are amazing all right. But maybe not in the way we hope or expect or might have assumed. The truth is after bravely going no contact, all of us feel relief and…like poop. At first. And at the same time.

Right along with feeling better…we feel…worse? Or a different kind of “bad”. It’s different than before going no contact, but it isn’t magically all better. So what’s it like after no contact? Let’s talk about it.

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20 Signs Your Spouse is a Sociopath

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Wondering if you’ve got a sociopath spouse?
Odd things going on, stories not matching up?
Walking on eggshells?
That’s how it was for all of us…

Sociopath spouse in the house? This is difficult to see and a hard realization to land on. What’s amazing is how common it is to wind up with a sociopath spouse. If you’re calling them a “narcissist” keep reading: there’s only one monster. What we call them matters less than knowing what that monster truly is and how to save ourselves.

This predicament of finding ourselves entangled with a sociopath spouse is not something that happens because there’s something wrong with you. It happens because these monsters exist. And absolutely everything is wrong with them.

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Narcissist? Sociopath? What…?

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Narcissist or sociopath?
Sociopath or narcissist..? Whatever you call them…
Please… know what you’re truly facing.

Narcissist or sociopath…? How do we determine “what” that person who is making our life a living hell “is”? I’ve noticed a strong inclination to believe that a “narcissist” isn’t a sociopath. Or that there’s a “difference” between a “narcissist” and a sociopath. The idea of a “narcissist” is thought by lots of people to be different and “better”…Or not as “bad” as a sociopath.

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Holiday Hoovering: Seasonal Lies

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Holiday hoovering is painful and a lie. The importance of no contact
becomes crystal clear as the temperature drops,
leaves fall and the seasonal decorations and
eggnog lattes come on the scene.

Holiday hoovering is happening! Read all about it: Here we are again in the thick of the holiday season. It arrives in songs about sleighbells in the grocery store, decorations, and television commercials, nowadays sadly, well before the last Halloween ghost has faded away and the last lone foil-wrapped chocolate witch is eaten.