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Sociopaths’ Sexual Boundaries

Sociopaths’ sexual boundaries.
Vague, twisting, bending, illusion.
Sociopaths’ gender and sexuality isn’t fluid, it’s manufactured.

Sociopaths’ sexual boundaries change with their prey. That person you’re calling a “narcissist” or even a sociopath that is, is changeable sexually. What I mean by this is, they decide prey by prey how much of their debauchery and what “flavor” of their sexuality to let out of the bag.

Though we might see them as one thing sexually, as preferring a certain type of sexual expression they each have habits and tendencies that are not shown to each of their prey. These parasitic predators retain hidden netherworlds that not all of us, as their “girlfriend”, “boyfriend” or “spouse” is shown.

Their sexual boundaries, sexuality, and their sexual expression as presented to each prey are a part of what they use to bind people to them. Let’s look further into this…

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Weird Stuff They Say

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The weird stuff they say haunts us.
We do our best to tuck it away, but it pokes out.
That stuff is the truth that can set us free.

Weird stuff they say haunts us. What’s up with “the boyfriend”, “husband”, “wife”, “girlfriend” (the pathological parasitic predator), and the weird things they say? Why do they talk a lot, but say one thing and then a different version another time? And then there’s the glittery hints of promises. Mutterings about marriage, kids, a house, something they’ll never do- like cheat or lie.

Typically, they tell lots of stories about other people; things those people did and said, along with lots of bad things about others. When we begin to question some of the things they do, their talk is peppered with denials about what was said or done. And eventually, there’s telling us we’re crazy. – But it’s the really weird stuff they say that haunts us most.

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After No Contact: What’s Next?

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After no contact that’s when we get them out of our bones.
We deliberatly create our recovery
with new info, practical action and time.

After no contact we might think things are going to be amazing! Things are amazing all right. But maybe not in the way we hope or expect or might have assumed. The truth is after bravely going no contact, all of us feel relief and…like poop. At first. And at the same time.

Right along with feeling better…we feel…worse? Or a different kind of “bad”. It’s different than before going no contact, but it isn’t magically all better. So what’s it like after no contact? Let’s talk about it.

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What To Do About a Narcissistic (100%) Coworker

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In this new reality of life,
we recognize these narcissistic users
where ever they may be.

A pathologically narcissistic user as a coworker is, unfortunately, a possible situation. A sociopath coworker isn’t unheard of by any means. Since the research says one in 25 people is a sociopath, this is bound to happen.

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3 Reasons Not to File a Protection Order

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Leaving is scary.
Their hounding and hoovering are traumatic.
In a panic, we might think we want a restraining or protection order.
In cases of violence – maybe – we need one.

Thinking of filing a protection order? – Or restraining order as they’re called in some parts of the USA? This is often the first thought we have when trying to leave a toxic partner. This is frequently the first advice we hear from others when we tell someone about the fear and trouble we’re having with a breakup from a “narcissist”.

As much as this can seem like the logical thing to do, let’s talk about why filing a protection order is a bad idea.

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Sociopaths Hate Us: So Does the “Narcissist”

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Heartless users are
über devoted to their fantastical lies.
And, when we unwind the lies they’re super mad.
Luckily, we’re so much smarter than they are.

The sociopath behind the mask is a monster. And they love it that way. They love being what they are. They’re also extremely limited in the way they think.

Every sociopath wears a mask of nice, sweet, handsome, awesome-guy or gal until the truth rips it off. All sociopaths are the same, it doesn’t matter if they’re male or female, their age or where they’re from. The pathological user is wired to hate, it isn’t personal, but let them think you’re going to expose them, and they come at you full force.

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Narcissist and Supply: Predator and Prey

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It’s normal to trust, believe and care.
It’s 100% abnormal not to.
We can’t understand abnormal by looking at it from normal.
So, let’s look at it for their side without our rose-colored glasses.

Narcissistic people who are in the zone of pathological narcissism know that they don’t have relationships. Even though they step up to us with this mesmerizing zinger, I’ve never met anyone like you before. They know they’re not stepping into a real relationship. We think they are; that we are.

The thing is, they aren’t saying what we think they’re saying. We naturally hear one thing, but they mean another. They don’t want a relationship, not even when they say, you’re my soulmate. Want to know why this is…?

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Can You Smell a Narcissist?

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Can we smell a narcissist?
Does the sociopath have a certain aroma?
As their abnormal brain affects their physiology…
how does it show up?

These are entirely different “humans”. The way they think, speak, and behave is not a “choice”. It’s instinctive. Their fundamental “self” is wired to use and take and get whatever they need and want. This “self” is pathological… meaning they’re driven by their brains which are not normal, yet are quite specific.

Can you smell a narcissist or sociopath?

I wonder, since the sociopath’s abnormal brain affects their physiology how does this show up in all parts of their being? We know a lot of the things that they each have in common as creatures of this sort. (Or the “narcissist’s” if you’re on that terminology even with all it’s pitfalls and misconceptions.)

They’re fundamentally and pathologically identical monster to monster.

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Can You Smell a Sociopath?

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Can you smell a sociopath?
Does a narcissist have a certain aroma?
As their abnormal brain affects their physiology…
how does it show up?

I wonder since the sociopath’s abnormal brain affects their physiology how does this show up in all parts of their being? We know a lot of the things that they each have in common as creatures of this sort.

They’re fundamentally and almost thoroughly identical pathological beast to pathological monster. For example, we know in their heads lies are real and real is made up.

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There Really Are Monsters

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Monsters know they’re monsters.
Narcs know they’re sociopaths.
Sociopaths know they’re sociopaths.
We don’t need to act as if they don’t and aren’t.
That’s how we win.

Monsters know what they are. Monsters like who and what they are. And yet, we’re spinning here, seeing our world turn in circles and go nowhere but backward. Because that’s the natural effect they have on normal.