What To Do About a Narcissistic (100%) Coworker

In this new reality of life,
we recognize these narcissistic users
where ever they may be.

A pathologically narcissistic user as a coworker is, unfortunately, a possible situation. A sociopath coworker isn’t unheard of by any means. Since the research says one in 25 people is a sociopath, this is bound to happen.

We can recognize this situation after we’ve gone through a scam relationship, and our tolerance for liars, users, and snakes is supremely low. We’ve dissected what these parasites are up to and now can see them.

Before the fake-lationship hijacking, we would have maybe felt uncomfortable around someone, or not “liked” them, but now, now we recognize if the case is that we’re facing a sociopath. It’s a strange new world.

A Pathologically Narcissistic User, a Sociopath Colleague

A narcissistic user is a certain kind of person: Insecure and fearful since they’re unable to figure us out. At all times, users need to know if we see through them and if we’re going to do anything about it or not.

The sociopath is limited and fixed in their mental and emotional capacity; it’s so limited it’s hard to fathom. Simple, simple, simple, and limited. They’re entirely self-survival-focused. Even if they seem smart about something, they’re limited, shallow, and lack real intelligence.

The creepy feeling exuded by a pathological narcissistic user, a sociopath in the workplace is oppressive, depressing, and can without a doubt trip us up.

Like a Rolling Stone: Sociopaths Job Hop

One consoling point to remember is that sociopaths – the pathologically narcissistic – don’t keep jobs long. Many of them move on in cyclical repeats in four to six-month stints. If the sociopath is the boss, we’ll have more of a challenge. If they’ve gotten themselves into a career, even these tend to move from company to company more often.

If waiting out their short-lived employment isn’t an option, it’s a given that we might want to find a new place to work. Putting a job search at the top of our to-do list. Here’s what to do about a narcissistic user in the workplace while we’re still there.

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Remember Who’s Really Who, or What

Sociopaths are the weak ones. A pathological “narc” (that’s a sociopath) is the truly codependent one. Without people believing and buying into them, they have nothing. Unless they can wind people up and reel people in with emotional entanglement, they’re empty-handed.

We are gorgeous. Filled with empathy, emotional intelligence, and flexibility. Creative mindfulness, resilience, and neuroplasticity. We can grow, learn, expand, change, improve and thrive.

First of all: you are amazing
Second of all: you are okay
Third: breathe
Fourth: a narcissistic user is a certain kind of person

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How to Handle the Impact of a Narcissistic User at Work

You as a normal human are truly gorgeous! These creatures study us in order to learn what we as a group of humans and as individuals care about so that they might seem to relate to it as well. They’re in essence taking lessons from us on how to behave to seem normal. You’re a gorgeous, smart, independent, strong, capable person, they’d love to come across as you do so that they might better hide.

At all times, users need to know if we see through them and if we’re going to do anything about it or not. “Reading” what’s up with us is vital to their mask, and survival. If they can’t get a sense of where we are, they flounder and eventually have to move on from us.

You’re okay: reduce their impact by placing them in the slot in your mind befitting them, a place of insignificance.

Make your mind blank and neutral when around them. Picture butterflies or birds flitting about in your mind’s eye anything unrelated to the moment of being face to face with them, and something pleasant to you.

When near them, breathe…smile, breathe, imagine they’re thin air, as if no one is there. Another simple way to think of them is as anything that conveys the feeling of limited mental capacity that will never increase. This blocks their ability to read our feelings towards them or the emotions you’re carrying.

What To Do When a Coworker is a Pathological Narcissist

There may be occasions at. work, in a training seminar, or a meeting where you have to interact. You’ve got to seem to be participating or listening to them. In normal situations of this kind, we would make periodic eye contact with the other participants or the leader. In order to give the appearance of looking towards them or eye contact, there’s a nifty trick. You can seem to “look at them”, but spare yourself actual connection and actual eye contact.

While looking in their direction, face or eyes, know in your bones that she is separate from you
Know that they don’t, and can’t reach you
Know that there is no harm they can cause us

Then, rather than looking at their eye as you would with a normal person, rest your gaze slightly to the side of their eyes, or at either side of their face or on their hairline. Let your eyes fall out of focus as you do so. Keep this gaze briefly, just enough for the sake of appearances. No one else will notice that you aren’t truly looking at this person across the table as they speak. – And: they won’t be able to tell. IF they sense it, it’s still protecting you and giving them nothing to “grab”.

Harm Comes To Us When We Swirl Into Emotional Spin Out

In keeping an uninvolved and neutral stance, there’s no harm they can cause you – or would particularly wish to cause you. Rather, you’d be off tier radar while others who might confront them or challenge them are in their scope.

You want to avoid interaction, and to avoid confrontation. There’s nothing to be gained from calling them out. There’s everything to be gained from keeping your cool and your distance. No matter what they do or say in the workplace, stay uninvolved with them directly.

A non-reaction and silence would be weird for us as normal people, but it can be 100% appropriate in this circumstance. Remember, they’re a parasite who dies without a host. You are the powerful, real, genuine, gorgeous being. Shine like the sun and go about your day.

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