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What Is a Sociopath?

Sociopath, psychopath, antisocial psychopath…
That’s what a psychologist friend told me he was.
I didn’t know what that meant,
but I knew it was true.

Sociopath… Now there’s a big scary word. I remember the first time I heard it in connection to the man I was married to. It was a friend’s attempt to explain the nightmare “relationship” I was escaping. I recall my heightened senses and the hesitance with which I took that word in. Sociopath…psychopath…

The weirdness of the first time I held the idea of a sociopath…whatever that was because I certainly didn’t know, up next to the nutbag I was kicking out of my life is something I haven’t forgotten.

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Divorce: Legal Advice for Leaving a “Narcissist”

Caught under their spell, married in hell.
There’s only one ending.
Divorce or annulment are inevitable.
We need legal advice..

Divorce from a narcissist or sociopath is required for millions of us. So why isn’t there a “Quick Guide” to divorce one of these monsters? I know I could have used one when filing and, thankfully winning the annulment I got!

Divorce is an unavoidable legal procedure if we married a “narcissist”. That is to say, if we’re married to a sociopath, we’ll most likely be getting a divorce. This dreaded and costly legal process is another one of the frightening inexplicably hellish necessities if we’ve married a conman (or conwoman), a psychopath.

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Narcissistic Abuse Unwound: The Podcast

Narcissistic abuse is a heap of confusion. There’s cognitive dissonance, terror, and months and possibly years of accumulated odd things and things that just don’t make sense and indescribable pain. The crux of the entrapment, the way it continues, and the legacy it leaves is rooted in confusion.

Our confusion is normal and from the traumatic deception and effect of the person deceiving us. This along with misconceptions about our circumstances that come out of our amazing gorgeous humanness. It’s key that we unwind the nightmare, unwind the madness. Decode what happened and reframe it in an unexpected, unpretty yet ultimately freeing and healing reality.

The podcast Narcissistic Abuse Unwound is one place where you can be sure to hear the reality of these life jackings without any coating or any kind of credit to the sociopathic entity that drew you in and used you. These are monsters, pure and simple. And they do what they do because of what they are. They can’t be anything other than what they are. Therefore, knowing what they are – and how that effects us a s normal humans, is key to our recovery.

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Co-Parenting with a “Narcissist”, the Sociopath

Co-parenting in even the best of divorce circumstances is a juggling act with some dropped balls. In the ideal co-parenting set-up both parents are amiable and respectful.

No one says anything nasty about the other parent, and exchanges run smoothly and easily in cooperation. Both adults are focused on the well-being of the children whether visitation is court-ordered or voluntary.

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Trauma Response: You’re Okay

Trauma response is real. It’s also normal.
There’s nothing wrong with us.
In fact, our bodies are protecting us.
Go with it.

We’re truly amazing! Trauma response is normal, valid and to be honored. When our eyes are at half-mast, and it’s only 11:00 am. That time in the afternoon when our brain is mush… and by afternoon, I mean 1:04 pm. The wish from deep in our bones to curl up with Netflix or just nothing and do nothing but sleep…

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What To Do About a Narcissistic (100%) Coworker

In this new reality of life,
we recognize these narcissistic users
where ever they may be.

A pathologically narcissistic user as a coworker is, unfortunately, a possible situation. A sociopath coworker isn’t unheard of by any means. Since the research says one in 25 people is a sociopath, this is bound to happen.

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Hooking Prey: The Sociopath’s Real Job

Sociopaths, even though you
might be calling them “narcissists”,
must hook prey.
They’re constantly baiting…
Casting a “line” in order to hook prey.

Hooking prey is a user’s full-time job, no matter if you call them a sociopath or a narcissist. They hook prey with bait. Every time they open their mouth they’re tossing bait. Pretty much everything single thing they say or do is bait.

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3 Powerful Ways to Rewire Trauma

Rewire trauma sustained during
the relationship that wasn’t.
Bring up stored deep brain patterns of feeling good.

Rewire trauma sustained during what we thought was a real relationship. During these hijackings, trauma is sustained and prolonged. We undergo an overload on our nervous and adrenal systems.

Simple methods bring us from the dark side and into the healing zone. Humans are amazing. We can rewire our emotional experience for both health and well-being.

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3 Reasons Not to File a Protection Order

Leaving is scary.
Their hounding and hoovering are traumatic.
In a panic, we might think we want a restraining order.
In cases of violence – maybe – we need one.

Thinking of filing a protection order? – Or restraining order as they’re called in the USA? This is often the first thought we have when trying to leave a toxic partner. This is frequently the first advice we hear from others when we tell someone about the fear and trouble we’re having with a breakup from a “narcissist”.

As much as this can seem like the logical thing to do, let’s talk about why filing a protection order is a bad idea.

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Sociopaths Hate Us: So Does the “Narcissist”

Heartless users are
über devoted to their fantastical lies.
And, when we unwind the lies they’re super mad.
Luckily, we’re so much smarter than they are.

The sociopath behind the mask is a monster. And they love it that way. They love being what they are. They’re also extremely limited in the way they think.

Every sociopath wears a mask of nice, sweet, handsome, awesome-guy or gal until the truth rips it off. All sociopaths are the same, it doesn’t matter if they’re male or female, their age or where they’re from. The pathological user is wired to hate, it isn’t personal, but let them think you’re going to expose them, and they come at you full force.

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