Narcissistic sociopaths rage so that we don’t see
through them and catch them out.
This ironically gives them away.
Narcissistic rage is frightening. And further puzzling and more frightening is that our normal behavior sparks the narcissistic rage. In the beginning, it seems like a dream…beyond a perfect dream, but this soon fades away and spirals into confusion. And lots of anger from them. Why are they so mad…?
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After a sociopath or narc
blows through your world, privacy really matters.
You can remain anonymous and get your life back.
Privacy and anonymity matter after a narc or sociopath rampages through our life. Go full no contact and get off marketing call lists too! And… raise your credit score after they trashed it.
Let’s be real. In the aftermath, our PTSD minds are filled with fear. There’s a time period of terror after the sociopath is gone, and after no contact, we’re still spooked. For sure. Maybe for a while, that’s okay. It’s also normal. And honestly, caution is wise and reasonable.
Privacy now becomes a real issue that may have been very much on the back burner before we were burned by a sociopath or narcissist. Here’s how we can keep our privacy and still participate in the digital world.
Continue readingWe think it’s love but fall into a world of hell.
A hell that for all its pain, we can recover from.
True love scam as a reality – beyond scary movies and television shows – is coming into focus like never before. How bizarre it feels to know something’s wrong, something needs to be fixed but you can’t pinpoint what it is or name it.
Finding yourself in a relationship nightmare as I did in 2012, you likely whipped out your laptop or smartphone to google away for answers. This search for information begins for most of us when you’re feeling that something’s wrong, yet you can’t put your finger on it, and nothing you do changes it, or makes things better.
Continue readingThings looking bleak, feeling uninspired,
and just plain worse?
Holiday cheer can turn to holiday blahs
and intermingle with PTSD.
Post “Holiday Season” there’s special brand of the blues that can hit us in our heart and soul. Even mid-holiday season, our emotions can take a nosedive. Though not much is said about it, for most people feel a lag in our energy and inspiration after the holidays. And this year… geez louise.
Continue readingFeeling devalued is intense and shaming.
But what if feeling devalued is a falsely induced feeling?
What if there’s another way to explain what happened and what they did?
We truly are left feeling devalued by these clowns. And a whole pile of other horrible feelings. Because of the intensity of emotions, feelings, thoughts, these defrauding events are imbued with, as people, naturally, we’ve developed language- assigned words- to represent our feelings. There’s a popular lexicon delineating the ride with these jokers. It’s said they: love bomb, idealize, devalue, then discard us. It sure feels like we were tossed out as last week’s rotting garbage.
Then, once we have words to describe how we feel, it’s also natural, as regular humans, we see our “feelings” as the explanation for what they did. They hurt us. They abandoned us; they belittled us, etc., so we conclude they wanted to hurt, abandon, belittle, and abuse us. So there we are in a stew of swirling emotions, feeling used and abused…
But what if there’s more to it than that?
Are we going to let them hold all the cards?
What if there’s another way to think about this gut-wrenching occurrence? One that helps us heal? What if there’s another angle that sets us free? What if the way we feel doesn’t shed light on what’s actually going on?
Continue readingWeeping in despair, grief. Confusion.
A shattered life. Depression and self doubt. Isolation.
This heap of feelings and thoughts and questions
are the beginning of restoration.
We can heal even the PTSD after a sociopath or what many call a narcissist. It includes emotions rolling over us in grand sweeps and simmering cess pools. These turn to feelings and thoughts that are untrue. There’s a is terror in PTSD others around can’t us usually can’t understand… We might not understand it ourselves.
You owe it to yourself to realize what this PTSD is, how it shows up, how to heal and rebalance yourself, and that it’s okay to be in a sate of post truama so that we can restore our gorgeous selves.
Altogether it’s loneliness and fears and doubts that are not the new you but can seem like it. There are many signs of PTSD, but the initial stages are most described by one word.
Continue readingI don’t need to list the horrific things we’re all going through right now as we recover from coercive control. You all know. It’s an unchartered course of unwinding the weird things that went on, resolving loss, grieving and realizing: It’s okay if the laundry piles up. It doesn’t matter if we’re ordering delivery of toilet paper and groceries because we can’t make it to the store.
Nobody cares how the towels are folded. Who says potato chips aren’t a vegetable? And let’s face it, binging our favorite calming episodic show for the 3rd time isn’t giving up or caving in but could be part of restoring our lives! Things aren’t back to normal, but the adrenaline has subsided enough that we sort of fall down into what some might consider a wreck. Or lazy. I call it healing.
Continue readingThe truth is: a sociopath by any other name
is still a sociopath.
The irrelevant-for-recovery DSM
trips us up in seeing what’s really happening.
Underneath it all, they’re identically pure poop.
Working as long as I have in guiding people to unwind their hellish rides in coercive control, I’ve noticed a striking pattern to the personas sociopaths co-opt.
For amusement and because we need classifications that are useful to resolve this sickeningly real situation, I’ve assigned categories to distinguish variations of a sociopath. Every sociopath creates a persona to live by. They need a front, a “personality” to present, a constructed face of “normal”.
Continue readingPeople like to tell those who’ve been
in narcissistic abuse that it was their fault.
This is natural.
It’s the human way of self-assurance
that it could never happen to them.
We all know the familiar feeling that we’re to blame for being hijacked by one of these monsters. Most people around us don’t understand what’s really happening…we don’t understand what’s happened! But there was one thing I knew for sure: it wasn’t my fault. It had nothing to do with me. My time was spent finding out how it did happen. Who – or what – was this!? Not all people seek real answers…
Recently I read a new reason to blame yourself for falling into a sociopath’s hands in a Psychology Today article. It blithely summed up the ancient phenomenon of predator and prey by saying, “…your life script issues and unmet relational needs…” are the cause.
Did you know you have life script issues? And please tell me which human in 2022 on this earth does not have unmet relational needs? We’re online, in Zoom meetings, on Instagram, and in Facetime calls rather than face to face with most anyone. But: how does this give another human permission to deceive us, and make use of us for their personal gain?
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