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Pathological parasitic predators- the “narcissist”,
a sociopath is often noticeably bored.
Bored heartless nomads.
Without care or connection,
one place is much like another.

Sociopaths are bored nomads. Empty souls, empty brains, absent hearts. They’re in this bored stupor and without care or connection because the part of the brain that registers like, love, care, and concern…empathy and compassion is we could say, unplugged.

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Their “connecter” elements don’t operate. Essentially, connectability just isn’t there so they don’t “attach” to anyone, to anything, or to any place. And because nothing holds positive emotional significance for them -not even a home- they’re just kind of blah.;

Have you noticed that they don’t notice or care what color the drapes are, or what kind of coffee table sits in the living room as long as it holds their feet while they prop up and camp out on the sofa alongside it? And unless they’re presenting as and playing what I call the Haus Maus they don’t know where the washer and dryer are.

A House Is Not a Home: Home is a Hideout

We won’t notice this at first because they’re busy making promises about our life together. Later when they’re slouched on the sofa, scrolling endlessly, carrying their phone to the bathroom, to bed, and the gym or on a laptop scrolling continuously, grunting or saying nothing to us for hours or days on end, then we see their emptiness.

And guaranteed while we relate to “there’s no place like home”, for them “home” is no place or any place. And further as some of us come to realize when it comes down to the bare bones of it all where ever they claim as “home” in reality this place is a hideout.

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Nobodies Home Inside Them Aside from Evil

Sociopathic parasitic predators pretend to feel things they don’t feel. They “pretend” sorrow, apologies, desperation, love, concern about us; every positive emotion toward us is manufactured and presented and not genuine or real.

Everything they express or show emotionally has a meaning behind it that is not what we think it is or what the words add up to. Let’s not miss this point however: All they do and say has meaning; significant and distinct meaning to their lives. Translating what we think their words meant into what it really meant is something we take on as we recover our lives in the aftermath.

Hiding in a Hideout: Empty Brained Narcissistic Predators

They know their emptiness and hatred of us is something we can’t accept, and it freaks us out. If we’re freaked out, that means they don’t get as much stuff! It can mean they need to move on sooner, and that puts them at risk. The risk they fear is that we might tell others about what they’ve done and the truth about their character.

So they fake it to get stuff and to keep that cozy couch to sleep on. To keep our ATM card, access to our car, and anything else. Unfortunately, they have an uncanny power of influence and get lots unless we already – fully – know what a sociopath is.

When normal humans take in a moment in life or interact in human exchange, our bodies respond by making a chemical mix that rushes to our bloodstream and brain and animates us in emotional responses of gratitude, empathy, delight, joy, or reverent awe, or an endless combo of sensation.

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Bonding is Normal: It’s Absent in Pathological Parasitic Predators

This grand cocktail of life forges deeper connections with others around us and to our very selves. In a sociopath this function is absent. They switch emotional responses on and off – sort of. But not really…

It’s that there’s just no one human home. Though a sociopath might say, we feel emotions. Ours is just different. – Well, yeah, that’s the point; they’re the feelings of a monster. Very, very different than ours.

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Sociopaths Have No Emotional Connection

Sociopaths mimic the emotions they see us go through. They don’t feel feelings like we do or understand ours. It’s all bars and tone – or desire and rage in the sociopath’s brain.

We get attached to our home and the simple things that take our breath away, illicit tears, smiles, giggles, or a sigh weigh in as a heavy clunk of next-to-nothingness in the sociopath’s “heart”.

The pride in our home, our lives, our child’s college graduation, first prom, first steps, or our teary-eyed satisfaction at giving the perfect gift to a loved one are experiences a sociopath will never have. Nope. Sociopaths have white noise where love should be.

We Feel Things Like:

Delight: at making a new friend
Pleasure: in helping someone besides ourselves
Joy: at the birth of a new baby, or moving into a new home
Compassion: for another’s sorrows or troubles
Satisfaction: in a job well done

A Sociopath Feels Excited About Personal Gain:

Delight: gloating at ensnaring a new victim
Pleasure: in a well-told lie
Joy: in scamming a new place to live, hide out, operate from
Compassion: there is none for anyone
Satisfaction: in a smear campaign that keeps people on their side

Otherwise, they spend a great deal of time simply bored. They mainly alternate and cycle through fear, excitement, glee, self-satisfaction, and boredom.

The Sociopath aka Narcissist Desires Only to Take and Use

The sociopath, as a bored nomadic parasitic predator moves on to shake trouble from their tail and stir up glittery resources. They make a get-away to fresh territory and ripe untapped prey.

A sociopath scum bag’s sole desire is to suck us in, to take, and to use us and all we have and all those around us if possible. They make up lots of “good reasons” to live together. They might say something like, “I need to move by Friday because my roommate stopped paying rent…” – It’s a hint at what they want. They toss out bait hoping we’ll bite out of our ordinary and gorgeous human empathy and compassion and social conditioning in order to – in this case – take over our space.

They’re laser-focused on this. They don’t want to pay rent or share in the bills. They make promises of work they’re getting, money coming in, and they’ll do the dishes later.

Haus-Maus or Man In Pants: It’s all Fraud

Some sociopaths have the persona of man-around-the-house and get bossy while others play Mr. Mom and do laundry, cook, clean, and pick up the kids. This is the way this type of sociopath gets the cheese. Yes, like rats in a lab as they go through life they learn which button to push to get dinner.

I call this errand running, dinner making, kid caring sociopath the haus-maus – or house-mouse. It’s all bait. This is what they hope will hook their room and board. Their shelter from the storms. Storms both outside falling from the sky, and quite likely the storm anger of the last person they messed with who’s now after them.

The Provider

Some others, averse to chores and dirty work, flash cash instead and foot the bill for a bit to secure their place in our home. From the beginning – or by the end – they don’t pay, won’t pay, and get mad if asked to pay. – Be aware there are those who pay big-bucks all throughout keeping us in mani-pedies, vacations, and designer clothes. However, it comes at a price.

A sociopath dirtbag (even if you’re calling them a narcissist) is never the person we think they are until we see the devil in their eyes. Then – and only then, are we seeing who they are. Since no one with a heart wants to live with a devil they try their best to hide it. Their best is not very good.

Con Men Predators Get So Bored and Need Places to Hide

The ironic trap of needing the person they don’t care about pisses them off. Without emotional attachment, pretending to be in love with someone would get old. And bothersome. Their hatred of us begins to show itself.

Sociopaths are bored nomads, their boredom makes it hard to keep up their facades.

They drop the act at any random moment, then shove the mask back in place, drop it, put it up again and it falls once more.

This inconsistency is how we see through them. That’s okay with them. Ultimately, these scum bag inhuman users don’t care about the longevity of a scam as much as they care about taking what they’re after and going free.

Getting What They Want and Getting Away

The getaway is important. And these predators do indeed have many people are after them. Lots of people on their tail. Always.

They’ve got people they owe money to, women with babies they’ve left to support on their own, someone’s husband who wants to beat the living-day-lights out of them, bench warrants, they’ve skipped parole, evaded taxes, jumped debts, stolen cars to ride off in. They’re so, so busy; so busy running in fear.

Changing Location is Essential to Surviving as a Sociopath

And so, sociopaths, con men change geographic locations over and over. Every three to ten months, the predator needs new prey, and often new hunting grounds.

They pack light and leave things behind, as they skip and hop from place to place without their name registered on a lease or posted on a mailbox. The scampiest of these I call the backpackers. – All they have is a dirty backpack, easy to pick up and go.

They hide behind their prey for official things like rental contracts. If we think they “own” a house, a condo, or a boat, but look closely, they mostly don’t own anything, and always there’s more to it than meets the normal human eye.

Where Ever They Are They Are The Same

Whether a sociopath skulks in a low-rent district or a high-rise, through all the lies they’re hard to trace and difficult to pin down.

The sociopath, as a bored nomadic parasitic predator moves on to shake trouble from their tail and stir up glittery resources. They make a get-away to fresh territory and ripe untapped prey. “Want” never leaves them, ever on the search for more money and more fun… otherwise they get so bored.

Boredom and Fear Are Forefront in Their Black Hearts

Boredom isn’t the only reason sociopaths, con men, narcissistic users need to move on down the road. It’s those people after them and those scams that blow up that lead them to a new location. Sociopaths are bored and boring and make terrible, monster, roommates. Who needs ’em?

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