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Do Sociopaths Love Their Kids?

It’s natural to believe
parents love their kids.
Is this a mistake at the expense
of the children in some parents’ clutches?

Can narcissistic sociopaths love their kids? (Every sociopath, btw, is 100% narcissistic.) We’d certainly like to think every parent loves their children. But in one of the nightmares that led you to find this page…are we putting your kids at risk?

When we’re in the throes of getting away from a pathological parasitic predator and trying to put together what we were dragged through, it’s Twilight Zone enough to absorb the idea that they didn’t love us, let alone pondering if sociopaths love their kids or not.

But we see the evidence- kids forgotten, ignored, abused, used, yelled at, manipulated, and hurt. We have to ask ourselves: Does this parent love this child? And further, even if they say they want the kids, are they good enough to be in the child’s life? Are they harmful?

Do Sociopaths Love Their Kids?

Firstly, a sociopathic parent can claim they care about their children. Or more readily stake a claim to their children. But break it down… recall the ways they express interest in their children.

Are we interpreting the way they lay claim as “caring”? But is it caring? Or is it what a pathological parasitic predator lays out as part of their ruse to seem normal and to get what they want?

Sociopaths know that appearing to care about the children makes them look “normal”. The (“narcissist”) sociopath is all about trying to get others to believe they’re normal or amazingly amazing so they can make use of us. With that agenda, what better way than to come across as someone who adores kids?

Normal People Love; “Narcissists” Do Not Love

As amazing and lovable as our kids are, no matter how much we love them, the sociopath does not love their kids. Most sociopaths abandon their kids eventually or immediately. As horrible as this sounds, this is the best situation for you and the children.

Know that we can turn a sociopath’s weakness and limitations – the sociopath’s deep and constant fear and fragile, house-of-cards existence to our advantage. Save the children. Live again.

As hard as it is, please realize that we’re lucky if they walk away and are never heard from again. No child benefits from a sociopath hanging around in their lives.

Remember, sociopaths fake all caring and any seemingly loving emotions. They really and truly feel none of it. They do pretend to care about kids… It can seem real through our hopeful view of things.

The very bizarre truth is that narcissistic sociopaths love no one. Sociopaths do not love their kids. The person you’re thinking of as a “narcissist” does not love their kids (because that’s a sociopath). They do use their kids just as they’re using us and anyone else who crosses their path.

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Why Do Sociopaths Act Like They Love Their Kids?

Sociopaths (or more accurately, psychopaths) do and say all they do and say only to get what they want. That’s truly their only inspiration. A pathological user uses any means they can think of to get what they want, to get away with what they do, and to maintain the pretense or facade of a “good reputation”.

I asked the nut-bag I married if he had any kids. He said, I have kids all over the world. I kinda thought, hmmm, then decided he meant he was a person who really loved kids, but had none because who the heck could have kids all over the world? – Well, turns out he did. 18 kids in five countries, at last count. All abandoned by him, used by him when possible, their mother’s lives periodically re-invaded, and all unloved by him.

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Sociopaths Pretend to Love Their Children

A part of the standard sociopathic persona is to pretend to love their kids, especially when other people are watching. They put on this show to convince someone else that they’re a great person and normal.

Posing as a loving parent is meant to influence others’ opinions of them as a good person. A trustworthy person, a loving and kind person: A normal person. Sociopaths do nothing genuinely kind or caring for their kids. The kids are a tool, an object, just as adults are.

Sadly, the kids are a tool, a cover, a respectability facade, a gateway to “more”. There’s no end to what a sociopath might do since they’re without stops, boundaries, or limits because of the limited functionality of their brains.

Since parasitic predators are unable biologically and physiologically to make a caring connection to any living being, they also have no conscience. You could say that kids, just as anyone else around them, are seen as paper dolls to make use of as they desire. Little toys strewn out on the floor to pick up or toss aside as needed.

There Are No Limits to Their Lack of Humanity

This pathology frames the parasitic predator’s brain to truly believe that every “toy” belongs to them; that each thing and each person is theirs to take and use or harm. The antisocial psychopath has no concern for what we consider “right and wrong.”

A parent without a conscience does not and cannot love their kids. A being that makes no connection, no positive bonds, has no humanity, cannot parent in any way. They harm and only cause harm to their children, even without overt abuse. They can be nothing else.

Appearing Normal vs. Being Normal

Antisocial psychopaths aka sociopaths do, however, observe that in the normal people’s world, our world, there’s a vast difference between how we act towards a child versus how we behave towards an adult.

They do know that to come across to us as normal, they must mimic the ways we behave towards children. However, they’re really, really bad at this. They slip up in shocking and obvious ways and fail miserably at acting “normal”.

Sociopaths (“Narcissists”) Act Like They Love Their Kids

Sociopaths pretend to love their kids when the child has a price tag. This can be to get out of paying child maintenance -or- to be awarded child maintenance payments. They pretend to love their kids to appease a Judge.

Male sociopaths in particular go to court to take their kids (your kids) to get out of court-ordered child maintenance. Which is tragically ironic, because they don’t pay child maintenance even when it is court-ordered. Unless someone is watching them pay.

That is to say, unless new prey know about the child (children) and observe how they treat the kids, and know whether or not they make the payments. And unless they have parents or someone else watching who they stand to gain something from. To get that thing, they will maintain some semblance of payment schedule at least for a while.

Female sociopaths (maybe you’re calling them a “narcissist”) are not above claiming false domestic violence and abuse so they can take the kids. Their goal is to look like a good and normal person, but further, it’s to get spousal and child maintenance. Female sociopaths do not love their kids.

There is Hope

Because sociopaths (“narcissists”) are simplistic, predictable, and extremely limited creatures we can ues their limits and motivations and specific needs to maneuver them out of our lives. This may sound odd, or not at all b clear in meaning at this moment.

To do this, we need a very sharp and precise comprehension of their base motivation, the limits of their brains, and to see this whole schmeer for what it is: A crime of deception and fraud. These are not relationships. There is no human there. I guide people to this place in one-on-one sessions.

Know that we can turn a sociopath’s weakness and limitations – the sociopath’s deep and constant fear and fragile, house-of-cards existence to our advantage. Save the children. Live again.

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3 Dangers of Female Sociopaths

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Female sociopaths exist. Big time.
In their empty souls
they’re the same as any sociopath.
They do use feminine charm to take and to ruin.

Female sociopaths aka narcissists and male sociopaths possess the same malfunctioning brain that leaves their hearts barren. They have no love, no genuine care or concern for anyone besides themselves.

It’s a reality, no matter what century we’re in, no matter the culture, though in some cultures far more than others that we expect women to be loving and nurturing mothers and loyal and monogamous and assume they are.

The unexpectedness of encountering a woman who is the antithesis of all this to the point of bare evil is traumatic. It sends us spinning into a prolonged state of disbelief.

To be fair, encountering any sociopath is traumatic: even when we don’t know that they’re a sociopath. There is undeniably an extra jolt when we do realize the person in front of us is a sociopath and female. This natural and normal disbelief on our part, buys them further time to wreak havoc in the lives of their prey.

That expectation of women beign sweet and lovig and sugar and spice is used as a tool by female sociopaths. Let me give a shout out to what’s real: most women are nurturing and loving. And – news flash – so are most men.

Normal Sees the World Through Normal: That’s Normal

The gorgeous humans, who fall into the traps of a sociopath aka who fall into the traps of a narcissist, are some of the most amazing humans on the planet.

If they sense you will possibly reveal them publically or to authorities as the wrongdoer expect some kind of deep smear. This is how they protect themselves, by weaving this kind of false and fraudulent set-up, putting you in the guilty seat.

The men who fall into this hell are incredible – as are the women… this though, is a case for so many of us who feel “there are no good men out there“. I’m here to tell you that there are.

There are indeed good men. The one’s who I work with in recovery sessions blow me away with their kindness, their pride in monogamy, their respect for women, and their huge hearts. Good men exist – and the female sociopaths who prey upon them count upon this goodness to twist them around. – This is how every sociopath works. Our normal, our innate goodness and human qualites are snatched up and used to swing us like a cat by its tail.

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Are There Really Female Sociopaths?

Female sociopaths aka female narcissists exist. They’re identical to male sociopaths in their empty souls and evil guts. For them, using feminine charm and lurid sexuality to take and to ruin is fair play. Depending upon our assumptions about what it means to be female, we’re possibly in for a harder and darker ride.

Sociopaths aka narcissists exist in every gender, in every social or economic class. You can find them in any religion, at a University, in any bar, in the laundromat, and at a wine tasting.

Fraudsters comprise about 95% of the profiles on dating apps which are absolutely packed with them. They can be – and are – anywhere and in every walk of life. Some of them even pose as people trying to help the prey of sociopaths to heal and recover. – They’re liars.

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3 Dangers of Female Sociopaths aka Female Narcissists

Being female gives the female sociopath aka the female narcissist an extra special bit of opportunity to make use of others.

Marriage: Community property and access to monetary support and property
Pregnancy: Life long financal support and open predatory access to you
Criminal charges: Domestic abuse, and rape

Why Do Female Sociopaths Marry?

Female sociopaths marry in order to gain financially or socially, to obtain possessions or respectability – only. There’s no love involved. They sign up with the intention of being supported by their spouse while they do whatever they like including still preying upon other men (or women).

As the predators they are, the female sociopath will push so hard for marriage they’ve been known to buy their own engagement rings. Divorce is usually the ultimate goal; ideally, this brings high alimony, a big settlement, or property.

Traditional Gender Roles Tip Into the Female Sociopath’s Hand

Being 100% supported financially by their male prey is a go-to for female sociopaths; they do hit the jack-pot fairly readily with this one sliding right into this traditional relationship dynamic.

All the while they’re sleeping with a whole team, a fleet, a crew, a slew of other men, women or both just as male sociopaths do. Please, see a doctor and have STD tests done. Female sociopaths are just as evil as male sociopaths. There’s no sugar and spice to be found inside the outwardly female pathological user.

More to Know: Yes, there are both male and female sociopaths. Sociopaths present themselves to the world mainly as their obvious biological gender, but are in fact something we could only call, genderless. Read more about the genderless nature of sociopaths here: Sociopaths Sexual Boundaries.

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Pregnancy: a Smoke Screen for “Normal”

Unexpected or not, pregnancy can bring the sweet scent of “normal” and more importantly big bucks for years and years to a female sociopath. And guess what, it doesn’t matter if she has this innocent child with a male or female target.

Women of antisocial personality disorder, ASPD – also many times called narcissists and thoght to be NPD, have fewer children than male sociopaths. The male sociopath aka narcissist populates the earth indiscriminately with many children that they leave by the wayside. Female sociopaths want to bear children in limited quantities for some pretty basic reasons:

The annoyance of pregnancy; it puts a damper on scamming
Pregnancy makes changes in their looks perceived to reduce their seductiveness
Children are not genuinely wanted and are not loved; they are a meal ticket

Every Sociopath aka Narcissist Cares Only About Personal Gain

Aside from possessing a child creating the necessary public persona of “normal”, female sociopaths have children for these other reasons: money, money, and money. Once a child is on the scene they can legitimately demand support and whether married or not, they take men to court to get it. In marriage and in divorce this plot includes taking your property.

All the while they’re sleeping with a whole team, a fleet, a crew, a slew of other men, women or both just as male sociopaths do.

Unwanted and surprise pregnancies or coerced “plans” for children all have the same motivation and result. Poking holes into condoms and lies about birth control or infertility are basic for a sociopath. If you have children with a female sociopath, consider DNA testing the babies. The results might not change your feelings for the children, but they can absolutely change court orders.

Children can bring big-bank to the female sociopath, and while you may be willing to voluntarily support financially in some way, the court-ordered maintenance is extortion when the pregnancy is a surprise, or attributed to the wrong man.

Domestic Violence: Staged, Forced, and Faked to Cry “Victim”

Female sociopaths commonly create a wife-beater scenario. It dovetails with the sociopath’s need to seem like the victim, and further this is a style of self-defense as is any kind of smear campaign.

In this kind of attack the sociopath – male or female or any gender – is attempting to make their case for this so that their story is the one that is believed and the focus is shifted to their prey – that is to you – as the wrongdoer.

Self-Harm to Blame You

They do this in two ways. She will become violent to incite a response of violence. By hitting first, the hope is that the man – or woman – will hit them back. If this doesn’t work, they have other options.

Female sociopaths are just as evil as male sociopaths. There’s no sugar and spice to be found inside the outwardly female pathological user.

Female sociopaths aka narcissists are known to inflict self-injury and claim that you did it to them…they could throw themselves into the edge of the coffee table. Bang their heads on the shower wall. Smash their own arms with a hammer… Blacken and bruise their own body and legs.

They might call the cops at the moment of beating themselves up or instead they take pictures of the blood and bruises, then later file police reports of abuse based on this craziness. – Each of these examples is a situation I’ve seen.

Claim Rape to Set Themselves Free

It is not at all beyond the female sociopath aka narcissist to claim rape. This makes staying away from them crucial. Keeping them away from your home, and not going to theirs is critical. If this is a co-worker, never be alone with them in an office or other room at your place of work. If this is unavoidable, leave the doors open.

Not meeting anywhere at all becomes serious for you as prey when the sociopath is ramping up into trying to subdue you. this occurs as they begin to see you as a threat to their own facade and freedom. If they sense you will possibly reveal them publically or to authorities as the wrongdoer expect some kind of deep smear. This is how they protect themselves, by weaving this kind of false and fraudulent set-up, putting you in the guilty seat.

Protect Yourself from Court and Jail

There are, unfortunately, restraining orders, and wins in domestic violence, or rape charge legal battles based on false allegations staged by female sociopaths. – Take the prospect of court or legal charges seriously. Find out how to position yourself to win against false claims.

Save every email, every text, and SMS. These can become proof of their lies. Do not respond to them. Go no contact and keep no contact as the only real protection against this. No contact is life-saving.