The Holiday Hoover: Halloween Onward

The horrors of the hoover, haunted by the ex.
Hoovering begins before Halloween
and lasts through the new year.
Why can’t these ghouls leave us alone?!

Hoovering is horrifying. We’ve all experienced it and can attest to the fear and gut clench it brings. Hoover season ramps up during the Holidays, and Halloween has come to mark the beginning of the Holiday season. Yes, as early as mid October these parasitic predators begin buzzing and texting. It’s a sickening feeling when they reach out; our hearts pound, our stomachs lurch.

They come out to haunt and hoover in attempts to remain in our lives. Especially if you have children with these monsters, they seem to hang on. They aren’t checking in because they care, but to see if they can get more, and most importantly to make sure that they are safe! – Let’s talk about that.

Holiday Hoover

Hoovering anytime of year is miserable, scary and traumatizing. Around the Holidays, depending where we are in the entrapment, these creatures tend to ramp up their communications. Because of the way they’re wired, they like to keep every one of use in a grab bag, under their spell for their use for as long as possible. A parasitic predator is maintaining prey and hunting prey constantly.

In particular, from Halloween onward, the parasitic predator uses our sentimentality around holidays and related holiday events to invade our lives.

Our emotionalism around the holidays is their doorway in to use us more.

Being used is something most of us are aware of by the time we’re on a website like this…

We know on some level within ourselves that they want to use us, but we may have not yet reached comprehending why on a deeper level; that hidden reason that is out of the bounds of our normal view of life.

The thing is though, seeing this other snip – the real reason for their reaching out, the real reason they hoover allows us entry into the pathway of truly taking back our lives and breaking up with evil. This other bit is our freedom. We need to see what they need more than anything else. That one need that motivates them wholly and only. The need that fuels them entirely.

Why Are They Hoovering? What Do They Want?

So, what is it the parasitic predator needs more than anything else? I understand that there are popular beliefs about what it is they want. Number one on that popular list is typically control. Often number two is power. And then there are to ruin my life, to destroy my happiness, to hurt me, to make me mad…. And because they’re jealous.

We do feel all these things: sad, mad, hurt, ruined, and even desperate, terrified, defeated, lost… and many more human emotions that are a part of these life-jackings.

They are their only concern. They hope that what they do or say causes us to feel something that leads us to give to them, do for them, and stay entangled.

And as regular humans, because we have these emotions we are inclined to think that these emotions that we feel are what the perpetrator wanted. Because we feel, let’s say bad and sad, we think that this is the result they were after: us feeling bad and sad…

That’s logical thinking by a normal human who connects and cares…in a situation with another normal human who connects and cares. The thing is, we aren’t in a dynamic with another normal human.

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It Isn’t About Us or Our Feelings

What they do and say isn’t specifically motivated by how we feel or by how what they say or do makes us feel. This is because instead of being in any kind of relationship or circumstance with a normal person – who would indeed be aware of how we feel, and be concerned about how they make us feel – we’re in a dynamic of predator and prey. In case it needs clarifying: they are the predator, we are the prey. They’re parasitic predators.

Their survival is through using others, rather than through connecting with others. To do this, they must keep the people around them believing them.

The mind set of a predator is that of a hunter. And because they need a long term host, they’re parasites. Parasites are users, in this case they’re pathological takers. Surviving by taking and using is rooted in their pathologically closed mind. In their heads is a mind that sees and considers only “self”.

Therefore everything they do or say is motivated by what they want and need. Their primary need is to keep as many prey as possible in their grasp.

As much as what they do and say causes us to feel mad, and sad, and as much as we interpret their rage as jealousy, these specific emotions of ours are not the primary motivation of a parasitic predator. In fact, our feelings in a defined sense probably aren’t on their mind at all.

There is an exception to this... There are those parasitic predators who delight in our pain. The ones who's behavior toward us is motivated by a craving and delight in our pain also use us for everyday things but have this additional revolting tweak. These demons do indeed want us to feel pain, because it's their entertainment or satisfies them. They want to see us cry, scream, in terror and despair, ruined, or whatever floats their sick boat. They have an extra-heightened desire for and get enjoyment from people's mental, psychological, emotional or physical torture. When it comes down to it, this too is still about them and for them, and not specifically about us. - If you've had this experience you know it. All content on this website will pertain, and support your recovery and the restoration of your life. You deserve every happiness.

So Why They Heck Do They Hoover?

The minds of these parasitic predators are only – can only – focus on themselves. And because they have no sense of positive genuine connection or care for others, those narrow self-focused limited minds don’t feel the emotions we feel. They don’t feel lose of love or love at all.

They think of us as weak and dumb for “letting” our ridiculous emotions run our lives. They don’t understand how our emotions feel, or why we feel them. They’ve never experienced the emotions we do and never will. – Likewise we won’t ever feel the depth of hatred, rage, or contempt for others that they do. And we won’t ever, ever be able to lie as they do. – And they know they lie.

Adrian Raine, a psychology professor at USC and co-author of a study on the difference in the brains of pathological liars (habitual without conscience) compared to the brains of people who aren't pathological liars:

“Pathological liars can’t always tell truth from falsehood and contradict themselves in an interview. They are manipulative and they admit they prey on people. They are very brazen in terms of their manner, but very cool when talking about this.”

They Have No Clue About Our Emotions

While not understanding our emotions, they do know that our emotions, our emotionalism and sentimentality leads us to give them things and do things for them. So, they hope that what they do or say causes us to feel something. They don’t care what it is we feel. They do want our “feelings” and subsequent thoughts to lead us to give to them, do for them, and stay entangled so that they can keep on using us, and taking from us. And by extension, so they can keep using others around us. It’s all about their survival, not at all about how we feel. They are their only concern.

The motivation behind every single thing these creatures do, including hoovering – or not hoovering, is based in one two-fold simple, simple thing. It’s really incredibly simplistic. So simplistic and basic that we have a very hard time grasping it or believing it.

It’s Not Easy to Believe Their True Motivation

It’s challenging to step out of what we are on a primal level to understand what they are. We must. You must be willing to walk into the bizarre world of their minds if you want to truly restore your life and become user-proof forever.

We have even a harder time applying the truth of their fundamental motivation to interpret and see the meaning of their actions and words. Though we have a hard time comprehending and accepting their true motivation because it goes against all that we are by nature, we must.

These ghouls aren’t reaching out because they feel the hoilday-tug of sentiment they might claim to have. They’re reaching out for themselves.

Now, let’s see if you’re able to answer the opening questions: What is the one thing above all else that they need for their existence, for their survival? Answer: It’s to remain free to do as they please, to take as they wish, and to use others. To be free to take and use without any opposition, any obstacles or anyone stopping them. And: Why do they hoover? Answer: To make sure they’re safe and to take more. There isn’t anything more to it.

Taking and Using Is Their Survival

Taking and using is their hard-wired way of life. It’s literally their survival which is difficult to believe. And especially difficult to believe if they have some kind of high-income profession they play at. But the reality is that they take and use all day long anywhere and everywhere they are in every way they can or want to. This is a result of their pathology…It’s the way their brains function.

When they pull in large dollar paychecks we tend to think they don’t need anyone else’s money or anything else from anyone. This is not the case. No matter how high profile or elite their social position is or their “career” is, if you look closely, you’ll see it’s a sham.

They Are Their Own Undoing

Over time they reveal themselves to be what they are, and you and others can discover that they aren’t competent or knowledgeable in their façade of a chosen field. Instead, they use and depend on others to do the real work, which they then take credit for.

Their survival is through using others, rather than through connecting with others. To do this, they must keep the people around them believing them. They must make sure they remain free to take and use. It’s paramount that those they use aren’t seeing through them…and more important that we don’t blow down their house-of-cards lives because of what we know.

To continue freely using others, they must constantly make sure at the very least, no matter what we might see or know about the user, that we aren’t going to authorities. That we aren’t telling other active prey all about the monster they are and what they’ve done. This is what’s behind hoovering. This and only this. Their survival. The freedom to take and access to use.

One Reason for All They Do

To sum up, these creatures hoover or don’t hoover for one two-fold reason: to make sure they’re safe and to see if they can get more. This is the reason and motivation and their only thought behind every single thing they do or say.

The real truth is, they aren’t reaching out because they care. There is no anger or indignation around not seeing their kids… It’s a put-on when they think that they might look like “the bad guy (or gal)” to someone who’s got a front row seat to their lives. This person in the front row is often new prey who know they have kids.

The Hoover is Not Based in Sentiment

These ghouls aren’t reaching out because they feel the hoilday-tug of sentiment they might claim to have. They’re reaching out for themselves. They’ve got to touch base to make sure you’re not “telling on them”. They must be sure you’re not exposing them.

And if there is still something you “give” them, even the teensiest, tiniest thing, they want to make sure that thing stays available, so they pop up once in a while to keep you locked in. And because greed has no ending, they’re checking to see if they can get even more. Always, always they want more.

Make sense…? if it doesn’t yet, it will. And in the mean time, and forever please, keep your door locked. Get a new number, block them from your email… Close your life to them. You can do it. Because… They haven’t changed but you have, because now you know their real intention. Please, protect your life.

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