Weeping. Despair. Grief. Confusion.
Weight loss. Financial ruin.
Guilt. Shame. Uncertainty. Loss. A shattered life.
Depression. Doubt. Isolation.
PTSD after a sociopath is normal – and intense. We feel broken and destroyed. – We are not.
For some it feels like a mental and emotional break down. We can heal. Even when we feel like we’re losing our minds. – We are not.
Specific care at this time is essential.
Patience with ourselves during the cycle of recovery will get us through the backsliding and up-swings and finally, healing. Some opt for therapy or counselling.
It’s best to have someone who’s been through this nightmare themselves. It’s one thing to understand all this in theory, it’s another to know what this is first hand.
PTSD After Narcissistic “Use” is Normal
PTSD is unavoidable after a sociopath – there’s nothing wrong with us. We’d call it “abuse ” if we were in a real relationship – we were not. These are crimes.
We’ve been attacked: targeted, wrapped up and dragged through a world of deceit, lies, deception, betrayal, illusion, delusion by a being with a criminal mind who has no concern for us whatsoever. There was no relationship. This is not failed relationship counselling. We’re not codependent. We’re not in denial. Sociopaths cannot devalue us.
Dr. Martha Stout says in The Sociopath Next Door: A person who has no conscience can instantly recognize someone who is decent and trusting. – The shameless know us much better than we know them.
Recovery from PTSD AFter a Narcissistic Sociopath
We need real support from those who truly understand what has happened. These aren’t relationships – they’re crimes as yet largely unrecognized by the legal system.
We’re left to recover our emotional, physical, mental and financial health. Reconciling that nothing is real – not the sex, not the relationship, not one single moment was what we thought it was – this takes support.
There are answers. We can heal.
Reframe the NIghtmare with a Sociopath – Understand a Sociopath’s Mind
The bizarre, the terrifying, the painful – as well as the good times with the monster who raided our lives will be in our minds almost constantly. Looking at these things from the mind of the sociopath puts everything in perspective. This allows us to see the sociopath behind the mask this sets us free.
This is a time to find, or dust off and renew faith. Faith in life, faith in a spiritual belief, faith in our own value, faith in the love of our children. – Find a core to anchor to. Reactivate our raison d’etre. Revitalize our purpose on this planet. Find a reason to go on. To stand up. To put our feet on the floor each morning and cause fear and evil to run.
There are very simple ways to rewire the trauma in our lives to heal.
Trauma and Shock Can Ravage Our Health – Take Care
Stress causes a great strain on our physical health. Taking super mega-stress protecting vitamins is recommended. Lemon juice in water with raw honey everyday and brewer’s yeast tablets which provide “b” vitamins protecting the brain from stress, go a long way in repairing and safe-guarding our mental and physical health.
Health problems from stress are easy to rebalance.
Medications, Alcohol and Drugs
During PTSD after a sociopath we’re likely to look to alcohol, weed or other drugs to handle the shock, overwhelm, mind-blowing stress and trauma. Avoid this as much a s possible and within reason. Even non-drinkers dive in for a glass or 3 of wine or vodka in the months of PTSD after a sociopath. If you have a tendency to over use alcohol or any substance you will surely find yourself out of control in PTSD after a sociopath. Take care.
Sad, Mad, Crying, Shaking – Wishing they Were Dead (Then Feeling Guilty)
Acknowledge the sadness. When the weeping comes let it. Say, “Hello despair. Leave your shoes on, I know you won’t be staying long.” — It’s now known that giving a name to, and a nod to, our emotions eases their sting and brings comfort and relief. Remind ourselves when we sigh oh, so heavily for the 37th time in one day: “I’m sad right now. That’s okay. I won’t be later.” and “It’s okay. I’m okay. I’ll laugh again soon.”
Physical, Mental, Spiritual, Emotional Care are on the PTSD Recovery Menu
Give yourself as much care as you can. Massage, yoga, meditation, renewed faith, new faith, walking, sleep. Spend time with friends who know how to listen and not judge, family who really cares deeply without criticism. Be very, very, patient. It takes time. Stay away from romantic relationships for now. No hook-ups. Dating after dating a sociopath is for later. Much later.
No One Robs and Empty House – We are Awesome
We are awesome, amazing, loyal, smart, magnanimous women – and men – that’s why the predatory sociopath selected us to cast their spell upon. They needed our power to do their bidding. – Without our greatness and belief in them sociopaths would not exist. Those same admirable humanistic traits and deep values are what allowed us to see behind the mask. It is us ourselves who set us free.
We’re supportive and forgiving, we hold humanity in high regard – some of the best of the best are the prey of sociopaths. Celebrate how wonderful we are. There’s a way out of the labyrinth of hell. It is you. It is our inner beauty, strength, kindness and compassion… shine them on ourselves. Embrace your life. You are awesome.
Here’s to REAL True Love and Happiness!
Time to thrive!
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