Narcissist vs Sociopath vs Happy

Narcissists are nasty, but they aren’t Sociopaths.
Sociopaths are monsters who are narcissistic.
Dump them all and be happy!

d62cbd9ba60d4c482e0cee6fedf971feNarcissist vs Sociopath. Whether the monster we tangled with is a sociopath or a narcissist isn’t super important – but on the other hand it’s really critical. There are vast differences between the two and lots of confusion about which is what.

Narcissist vs Sociopath vs Happy. On our way to renewed happiness we wonder if the monster we did battle with is a sociopath or a narcissist.

There’s a distinct difference between a narcissist and a sociopath, with what seems like similarities… we do need more shades of meaning for the word: assh–e.

The difference matters a lot in getting away and recovery.

Chances are if we call him or her a monster we’re confronting a sociopath. There’s a running trend referring to Sociopaths as Narcissists. Sociopaths are narcissistic – as a verb not a noun.

Whatever we call them – we don’t want them. We want happiness.

Forget the clinical descriptions. Let’s look at the differences in real life. 

First a look at Narcissists. They are known as “having” “Narcissistic Personality Disorder” or “NPD”.  Narcissists are unpleasant, yet essentially normal people whose unfortunate emotionally immature and self-focused personalities spoil everything.

Narcissists have a snarky way about them. They can be nasty one minute the mean the next, in front of anyone, to anyone, anywhere. Narcissists vary in levels of self absorption from narcissist. Some are only annoying, some seem insane. Like so nuts in their self absorption they’re scary.

Narcissists have a chip on their shoulder.
They whip it out to bonk people on the head with.
This occurs at any random second during ordinary conversation.

Traits of Narcissists:

Begrudging of others’ happiness.
Think they’re fair & open-minded.
They’re jealous, but don’t think they are.
Begrudge and make pokes at people or things that take attention away from them.
They hang onto any chance to complain about or criticize someone; have strong judgement.
Have a sense of self-importance above importance of others.
Make backhanded insults and sharp put downs.
Are sometimes predictable about what sets off the mean streak.
Mean behavior – juxtaposed with fairly normal loving behavior is unpredictable.
Narcissists make an elephant in the room with searing remarks that cut like a razor.
They humiliate another person publicly at the total shock of everyone present.
They may or may not abuse family members or loved ones physically.
Most of their bad behavior is reserved for their loved ones, but can debut in public.
Express out of the norm over empathy for circumstances and others they relate to.
Turn  conversations to their opinions, concerns – or lose interest in the conversation.
The really deeply narcissistic ones yell things like: you are so lucky to know me.
Theoretically a narcissist can change their ways.

Narcissists vs Sociopaths vs Happy

Narcissists are impossible to please, make terrible mates, and rotten friends. At best they can be okay, if we agree with them and focus on them. At worst they make misery everywhere. A pleasant evening can be had with a narcissist when one has nothing invested in any type of relationship with them; small talk will be sprinkled with the narcissist’s invariably acerbic and self-centered focus.

While some words used to describe a sociopath and a narcissist are similar the depth and breadth of the manifestation of these semantics is light years apart.

What Narcissists are Not

Narcissists aren’t monsters like sociopaths, here’s what narcissists are not:

Narcissists are not pathological liars.
It isn’t their goal to destroy someone’s life in order to support their own.
They don’t live entirely off of others financially.
They don’t hijack people’s lives to sustain their own facade.
They don’t mimic emotions to seem normal.
They don’t have criminal minds devoid of compassion.

Can Someone Be a Narcissist and a Sociopath?

Technically: yes. Here’s where lots of confusion comes in. If a sociopath (antisocial psychopath, ASP, ASPD) were to go to a psychologist or a psychiatrist and ask for a clinical diagnosis (as if) they could potentially be given a double diagnosis as ASP and NPD. Here’s the thing – NPD is on an individual sliding scale of narcissism and nastiness and has lots of personality characteristics individual to that person. Sociopaths do not. Sociopaths have abnormal brains that leave them very nearly 99.99% identical in thinking and tactics and traits from one sociopath to the next though one is a skate boarding obvious drug addict and one wears a power suit on wall street, or is (omg) a fancy-pants psychologist. And – if we’re involved with a sociopath for our practical purposes of escape and recovery – that brain in their heads, those sociopath limited and fixed traits over ride any element of dealing with someone of NPD. — And the big thing to remember: NPD people are not necessarily sociopaths; statistically there are many more NPD people out in the world than there are sociopaths, ASP. However, there could be many unrecognized sociopaths mistaken for NPD. Sociopaths by definition are inherently 100% narcissistic.

We don’t need a diagnosis to know what we’re standing in front of.

Sociopaths are Dangerous

Sociopaths are technically referred to as anti-social psychopaths, or as “having” antisocial personality disorder or as sociopaths. They are narcissistic, as in they think they’re all that, but they are a whole different thing from being a “Narcissist”. Sociopaths are faaaaar worse. They can never change. Some are more skilled at deceiving and manipulating than others. Sociopaths have a brain that is missing the element that registers feelings of love, like, care, concern or compassion for anyone. They are incapable of positive bonding feelings. Absolutely devoid.

Narcissist vs Sociopath: This is not the case with Narcissists, but Narcissists are not fun to bond with. If we have a Narcissist as our mom or dad… they do love us, but oh, how it hurts. – Sociopaths are pretending love – they feel none. Sociopaths are incapable of loving anyone. Forever. – They cannot get better. Therapy can make them more dangerous.

Sociopaths have an abnormal brain. This can be seen in brain scans on children as young as three years of age. Their behavior stands out as young as ten years old. The portion of the brain that registers any positive bonding emotions doesn’t function. They feel no love, like, care, concern, compassion for any person. Not their mom, their dad, their, sister, brother, uncle, aunt, grandparents, spouses, girlfriends, boyfriends, or their own children. Not strangers, coworkers or neighbors. They hold the same lack of care or connection to the postman that they do to their mother.

The younger they are the less experience, and so less skilled at conning typically. They begin exhibiting sociopathic tendencies and begin to live fully by lying and scamming in their late teens and early twentys. They learn more about scamming and conning from each victim and improve their skills as time goes by.

Sociopaths Characteristics and Limitations in a Nutshell

Sociopaths destroy lives:

Everything is a lie.
Except odd moments when they say something very off. – Believe them then.
They mimic – imitate – normal human emotions.
They do not bond with anyone.
They LOVE being sociopaths.
They target great people.
They feel no love, like, care or concern for anyone.
Out and about they strive to be charming, kind, smart, funny, entertaining.
Immediately they create a sense of having met our their soul mate.
Sociopaths move very quickly to escalate the relationship.
They win trust of a target, take, ruin and then smear their victims after they leave.
Male sociopaths impregnate select victims & have children to seem normal.
They do not love their children, but pretend they do to look good.
Sociopaths hide some relationships and make others public.
They work hard to look good in front of others.
Their faces and physical appearance change depending on their aim.
Treat their mate very well in public or around family in the beginning.
There are always several love scams and or business scams at one time.
They can be male or female and scam people of both sexes.
They don’t work but live off others. If they work it is short-lived or fails.
They will commit crimes to stay afloat or just because.
Sociopaths avoid our texts or calls, but appear when they want to.
They’re always so, so busy & unavailable. Or you can’t get them off the couch.
They text and are online constantly and consistently.
Sociopaths think they are a victim; they share so many tales of harm from others.
They may have porn, gambling, alcohol, drug addictions that they hide.
Sociopaths are anyone-is-fair-game-sexual – because they don’t care about anyone.
They walk a thin line between illegal acts and legal behavior.
Sociopaths steal from victims the entire duration.
At the end they will take something irreplaceable and valuable.
They avoid sex with primary or select partners as a way of control.
At the same time they’re highly sexually active and promiscuous.
They are night owls with erratic sleeping patterns.
They seem impressively accomplished in some area – they usually aren’t – it’s fake.

How Sociopaths Function

They feel no remorse, guilt, regret… or anything other than desire. Desire for money, clothes, food, shelter, cars, status – anything and everything that comes from anyone but themselves. They live off of other people entirely as parasites. They have no emotions. Any expression of care, like, love, connection is faked. It’s a game to them. They mimic normal humans to create trust and bonding with people they target for the purpose of taking from them. Then ruining them. Then smearing them. 

Sociopaths are Narcissistic – As in the Verb “To Be Narcissistic”

Sociopaths are entirely self-absorbed and have myopic view that they’re better than everyone by a zillion miles, that they deserve whatever they take from anyone, and that we as their victims deserve whatever they do to us. – And they can be incredibly concerned about their looks.

They have stories of being victims repeatedly, in business, at work, by lovers, by strangers, by “haters”… Essentially – they’re nuts. They’re charming and deluded monsters. They carry out new ploys on a whim and constantly have a stable of multiple victims. They are always looking for new targets. Sociopaths who do hold actual jobs stay in them on the backs of others and do little aside from taking credit for others accomplishments and ideas and attempting to make themselves look amazing.

They like to impress us with their skills – and work as little as possible. 

They’re improvisational – they’ll switch main victims suddenly if something changes, or they get a different idea. They’ll do impulsive things to protect themselves and even be violent to defend their security. They’ll  – oddly – put themselves at risk of being arrested or caught by impulsive behavior that’s meant to keep themselves from being found out. To get something very close within their grasp they’ll cross lines – or walk a very fine line between legal and illegal like balancing a tight rope wire.

They lie always. What they say and do is to get what they want. It’s a lie or a mislead. Even when they let out bizarre snips of truth about themselves. This is also to pull mepathy by seemign vulnerable, or pulling out trust by seeming to be able to admit weaknesses such as, “I try to have emapthy, I just don’t.”

They are career scammers. It’s how they live. They’re often addicted to a drug, alcohol or porn or gambling. They hide this. They are typically bi-sexual. They hide this. Sex means nothing to them except as a control tactic and as an animalistic release.

Sociopaths are not Narcissists. Narcissists are mean, nasty, unpredictable, create utter misery. Sociopaths present a façade of a person who does not exist. They mimic normal human emotions to gain trust and then take from all and any people they target.

For the Happy, in a simplistic and obvious few words: stay away from all of the above! : )   Reframe the nightmare with a sociopath.

Here’s to REAL True Love and Happiness!

Time to thrive!

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