Narcissists are nasty, but they aren’t Sociopaths.
Sociopaths are monsters who are narcissistic.
Dump them all and be happy!
What’s the Difference Between a Narcissist and a Sociopath?
Narcissist vs Sociopath. Whether the monster we tangled with is a sociopath or a narcissist isn’t super important – but on the other hand it’s really critical. There are vast differences between the two and lots of confusion about which is what.
Narcissist vs Sociopath vs Happy. On our way to renewed happiness we wonder if the monster we did battle with is a sociopath or a narcissist. Chances are if we call him or her a monster they’re a sociopath. There’s a running trend referring to Sociopaths as Narcissists. Sociopaths are narcissistic – as a verb not a noun. What ever we call them – we don’t want them. We want happiness.
Forget the clinical descriptions. Let’s look at the differences in real life.
First a look at Narcissists. They are known as “having” “Narcissistic Personality Disorder” or “NPD”. Narcissists are unpleasant, yet essentially normal people whose unfortunate emotionally immature and self-focused personalities spoil everything. They have a “the world owes me” assumption that informs everything about the way they interact with others. This harbors a belief that happiness is something that is meant to be “done for them” or “given to them” rather than personal happiness being something we, ourselves are responsible for.
Narcissists have a chip on their shoulder.
They whip it out to bonk people on the head with.
This occurs at any random second during ordinary conversation.
Traits of Narcissists:
Begrudging of others’ happiness.
Think they’re fair & open-minded.
They’re jealous, but don’t think they are.
They hold grudges, have strong judgement.
Have a sense of self-importance above importance of others.
Criticize, make back-handed insults and sharp put downs.
Are sometimes predictable about what sets off the mean streak.
Mean behavior – juxtaposed with fairly normal loving behavior is unpredictable.
Narcissists make an elephant in the room with searing remarks that cut like a razor.
They humiliate another person publicly at the total shock of everyone present.
They may or may not abuse family members or loved ones physically.
Most of their bad behavior is reserved for their loved ones, but can debut in public.
Express out of the norm over empathy for circumstances & others they relate to.
Turn conversations to their opinions, concerns – or lose interest in the conversation.
Theoretically a narcissist can change their ways.
Narcissists vs Sociopaths vs Happy
Narcissists are impossible to please, make terrible mates, and rotten friends. At best they can be okay, if we agree with them and focus on them. At worst they make misery everywhere. A pleasant evening can be had with a narcissist when one has nothing invested in any type of relationship with them; small talk will be sprinkled with the narcissists invariably acerbic and self-centered focus.
While some words used to describe a sociopath and a narcissist are similar the depth and breadth of the manifestation of these semantics is light years apart.
What Narcissists are Not
Narcissists aren’t monsters like sociopaths, here’s what narcissists are not:
Narcissists are not pathological liars.
It isn’t their goal to destroy someone’s life in order to support their own.
They don’t live entirely off of others financially.
They don’t hijack people’s lives to sustain their own facade.
They don’t mimic emotions to seem normal.
They don’t have criminal minds devoid of compassion.
Sociopaths are Dangerous
Sociopaths are technically referred to as anti-social psychopaths, or as “having” antisocial personality disorder or as sociopaths. They are narcissistic, as in they think they’re all that, but they are a whole different thing from being a “Narcissist”. Sociopaths are faaaaar worse. They can never change. Some are more skilled at deceiving and manipulating than others. Sociopaths have a brain that is missing the element that registers feelings of love, like, care, concern or compassion for anyone. They are incapable of positive bonding feelings. Absolutely devoid.
Sociopaths have an abnormal brain. This can be seen in brain scans on children as young as 3 years of age. Their behavior stands out as young as 10 years old. The portion of the brain that registers any positive bonding emotions doesn’t function. They feel no love, like, care, concern, compassion for any person. Not their mom, their dad, their, sister, brother, uncle, aunt, grandparents, spouses, girlfriends, boyfriends, or their own children. Not strangers, coworkers or neighbors. They hold the same lack of care or connection to the postman that they do to their mother.
The younger they are the less experience, and so less skilled at conning typically. They begin exhibiting sociopathic tendencies and begin to live fully by lying and scamming in their late teens and early 20’s. They learn more about scamming and conning from each victim and improve their skills as time goes by.
Sociopaths Characteristics and Limitations in a Nutshell
Sociopaths destroy lives:
Everything is a lie.
Except odd moments when they say something very off. – Believe them then.
They mimic – imitate – normal human emotions.
They do not bond with anyone.
They LOVE being sociopaths.
They target great people.
They feel no love, like, care or concern for anyone.
Out and about they strive to be charming, kind, smart, funny, entertaining.
Immediately they create a sense of having met our their soul mate.
Sociopaths move very quickly to escalate the relationship.
They win trust of a target, take, ruin and then smear their victims after they leave.
Male sociopaths impregnate select victims & have children to seem normal.
They do not love their children, but pretend they do to look good.
Sociopaths hide some relationships and make others public.
They work hard to look good in front of others.
Their faces and physical appearance change depending on their aim.
Treat their mate very well in public or around family in the beginning.
There are always several love scams and or business scams at one time.
They can be male or female and scam people of both sexes.
They don’t work but live off others. If they work it is short-lived or fails.
They will commit crimes to stay afloat or just because.
Sociopaths avoid our texts or calls, but appear when they want to.
They’re always so, so busy & unavailable. Or you can’t get them off the couch.
They text and are online constantly and consistently.
Sociopaths think they are a victim; they share so many tales of harm from others.
They may have porn, gambling, alcohol, drug addictions that they hide.
Sociopaths are omni-sexual – because they don’t care about anyone – so – who cares?
They walk a thin line between illegal acts and legal behavior.
Sociopaths steal from victims the entire duration.
At the end they will take something irreplaceable and valuable.
They avoid sex with primary or select partners as a way of control.
At the same time they’re highly sexually active and promiscuous.
They are night owls with erratic sleeping patterns.
They seem impressively accomplished in some area – they usually aren’t – it’s fake.
How Sociopaths Function
They feel no remorse, guilt, regret… or anything other than desire. Desire for money, clothes, food, shelter, cars, status – anything and everything that comes from anyone but themselves. They live off of other people entirely as parasites. They have no emotions. Any expression of care, like, love, connection is faked. It’s a game to them. They mimic normal humans to create trust and bonding with people they target for the purpose of taking from them. Then ruining them. Then smearing them.
Sociopaths are Narcissistic – As in the Verb “To Be Narcissistic”
Sociopaths are entirely self-absorbed and have myopic view that they’re better than everyone by a zillion miles, that they deserve whatever they take from anyone, and that we as their victims deserve whatever they do to us. – And they can be incredibly concerned about their looks.
They have stories of being victims repeatedly, in business, at work, by lovers, by strangers, by “haters”… Essentially – they’re nuts. They’re charming and deluded monsters. They carry out new ploys on a whim and constantly have a stable of multiple victims. They are always looking for new targets. Sociopaths who do hold actual jobs stay in them on the backs of others and do little aside from taking credit for others accomplishments and ideas and attempting to make themselves look amazing.
They like to impress us with their skills – and work as little as possible.
They’re improvisational – they’ll switch main victims suddenly if something changes, or they get a different idea. They’ll do impulsive things to protect themselves and even be violent to defend their security. They’ll – oddly – put themselves at risk of being arrested or caught by impulsive behavior that’s meant to keep themselves from being found out. To get something very close within their grasp they’ll cross lines – or walk a very fine line between legal and illegal like balancing a tight rope wire.
They lie ALWAYS. Except when they let out bizarre snips of truth about themselves. They are career scammers. It’s how they live. They’re often addicted to a drug, alcohol or porn or gambling. They hide this. They are typically bi-sexual. They hide this. Sex means nothing to them except as a control tactic and as an animalistic release.
Sociopaths are not Narcissists. Narcissists are mean, nasty, unpredictable, create utter misery. Sociopaths present a façade of a person who does not exist. They mimic normal human emotions to gain trust and then take from all and any people they target.
For the Happy, in a simplistic and obvious few words: stay away from all of the above! : ) Reframe the nightmare with a sociopath.
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