Healing in a Glass of Water

Our health takes a rapid pitch decline after the scam.
A tonic for recovering from true love scam comes in a glass of water.

Healing in a glass of water image - lemons strawberriesEating is not even on the radar as we scurry and panic and fly running errands to untangle legal messes and secure our safety.

Here’s how it went for me: First I stopped eating almost entirely. I drank coffee. I drank wine. Sometimes I had about five tablespoons of really high fat food. Like macaroni and cheese from the hot bar at Whole Foods.

Brie and Cambazola and a baguette might make it to our lips if our bodies shout loudly enough to remind us to eat. Or maybe it’s Takis and frozen burritos.


In the aftermath – in trauma – we lose weight – fast – around 20 pounds. I was really happy with that truth be told. I thought it was nifty to be at my 16-year-old body weight. My pants started falling off. I thought of wearing a belt – but I didn’t own any  & going clothes shopping didn’t fit my packed agenda of  police visits, USCIS immigration report compiling,  attorney appointments, working, sleeping 4 hours a night; and all the fear, terror & PTSD in escaping a sociopath.

I thought I looked really good and I got lots of compliments.

I later saw pictures of myself from this skinny, non-eating, non-sleeping time. I looked like a freaked out person who was in high stress and didn’t eat or sleep. Okay – so not so good. I wasn’t exercising in any way other than panicked race-walking hauling all my important documents, my laptop and changes of clothes and make-up from my apartment to my car to go to work and anywhere else I had to be. I carried anything of significance like social security number, passport, credit information, birth certificate… in case he somehow broke into my apartment. – Though I “knew” he wouldn’t. All residual from

This started during the 10 days he still lived with me after his mask came off and his monster identity was revealed. I continued this long after he left. I couldn’t stop. Even though the locks were changed. I was certain I’d seen him around the corner from my (our former) apartment twice. I was taking no chances. — This was ptsd after a sociopath. I anticipated I’d get to  my car and find he had vandalized it – slit tires, smashed windows. I was in fear each time I hurried down the street – wondering if he was watching me – weighed down with lugging my life on my back and dangling from each shoulder in plastic carry bags. This is ptsd.

Eventually I ate more often. Still very high fat food. I kept drinking wine. Coffee. Processed frozen food. There was no cooking happening any more. – I threw out all the red palm oil, garri, cabbage, frozen jute leaves, peanuts and fufu. – I couldn’t stand the thought of Chobani pineapple yogurt, avocados, oatmeal or anything that had become our food. – So I microwaved frozen battered fish, pizza, mac-n-cheese, fettuccini. I bought donuts and almond & chocolate croissants from a bakery on my corner. Not a fruit or vegetable crossed my lips. Over the next 6 months I gained the 16 pounds back… I still couldn’t exercise. I only moved if I had to – the rest of the time my body needed to restore itself in long hours of deep sleep – and in more food. I grew while my body hibernated.

Let’s take the pressure off this aspect of healing.

Without a scale to measure I’d guess I gained about 25 pounds on top of my original 16. I had raging candida. I was exhausted – this is normal in trauma. I did need sleep. Sleeping a lot is part of recovery. So I became 2 and 1/2 sizes bigger and HATED IT. My sister-in-law from Europe came to visit and said: You’re not fat… for an American. UUUUggGhhhuuu!! – Sorry – Half my family lives in Europe – where people walk as part of daily life, eat real food – only – and never gain an ounce their entire life beyond their natural body frame.

It’s known and often talked about in the media: people in the U.S on average are larger, weigh more and are more unhealthy than people in other developed countries. The average American woman is currently a 14 or 16. Time to get back into yoga – which I love – walking, hiking, riding my bike, eating better and getting healthy – and healing in a glass of water.

I want to be able to use my body. I want to move freely, feel energetic. Walk, hike, spend hours going through museums, Disney Land, bike riding or anything else that comes up. I don’t wan to go into fright-or-flight when someone says, “Hey! Let’s go to the beach.” I don’t need to be  a beauty queen, but I want to feel good about being me.

Still… It takes as long as it takes.

It still took almost a year from the time of her visit until I could make any changes. Nearly a year since my annulment was final. Two years since the day he left. A year and a half since the LAPD filed the felony theft report. 8 weeks since the last immigration report and the letter to the Los Angeles District Attorney. In other words – it takes time. It all takes lots of time.

True love scam recovery comes in stages.
A step forward, a little back slide and so on until we reach full recovery.

Here’s what I did. Finally:

  • Took my juicer out and made apple, lemon, greens, ginger & habanero fresh juice. Twice!
  • Went to a yoga class. Twice!. – Almost talked myself out of going – twice.
  • Drank less coffee.
  • Went on 2 walks.
  • Played music I love and had forgotten about and danced around my living room!
  • Turned water into a remedy.

Water itself is medicinal. Water becomes a tonic by adding fruit, spices, herbs and even some vegetables. This elixir of life helps our body in all kinds of miraculous ways: weight loss, cleansing, stress relief, digestion, hydration, warding off infection, viruses, arthritis, cancer and a host of other human ailments and imbalances. Here’s what one woman did drinking hot lemon water with raw honey. She drank it every morning for one year. — With the stress we’re under a simple change like this might be all we can handle, and yet achieve deep results.

More water turned to elixir ideas:

  • Water with fresh lemon, ginger slivers, turmeric and cayenne pepper.
  • Water with fresh lemon and crushed strawberries and ginger.
  • Water with fresh lime and lemon with apple slices.
  • Water with fresh lemon, smashed blue berries & ginger.
  • Water with lemon and tangerines.
  • Water with cucumber slices & mint.
  • Water — water, water & and again water.

And lastly in order to feel good about me in my own skin – I went out and bought pants that fit – yes, they are 2 sizes bigger.

Start Juicing! The best juicer out there. I have one.

Here’s to REAL True Love and Happiness!

Time to thrive!

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