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Why, how and what…?

What’s the Smear Campaign All About?

Sociopaths know the end is coming.
Before it hits they need to position themselves
to come out smelling like roses.
It doesn’t work. They smell like poop. Always.

When we fall into these traps we think its true love with a real person. The sociopath knows things we don’t… like that none of this is real.

They aren’t what we think they are.

The sociopath is obsessed with making sure no one ever catches on to just how heinous they are. Looking like the victim and the “good guy” are their ploy to that end. They go to great lengths to conjure themselves into the role of “victim” in the eyes of their “fans” and other prey in order to keep empathy falling into their slimy laps so they can keep taking and using and getting away with it. It’s smoke and mirrors.

Smearing is a special brand of Hoovering. If we respond, they still have us.
Love-bombing, complimenting, adoring, insulting, Hoovering, smearing.
It’s all bait – our emotions hook us.
The entire ride with them is nothing but “bait and hook.”

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Why Do We Fall for Sociopaths?

Sociopaths don’t mind who they target.
It’s a good day as long as they have several someones in their grip.
Otherwise, they can’t survive.
How do they get us? Why do we fall for sociopaths and why do we stay?

The sociopath’s uncanny power of influence has roots in the primal, raw place from which they live; they’re parasitic survivalists functioning out of no conscience, no positive human connection, and a deep and abiding, driving fear of being exposed and left with no one believing them. If no one believes them, they have no means to survive.

Sociopaths can’t function in our real world with sustained ability or skill despite appearances. They leech their existence from others; it’s a matter of life and death.

Antisocial psychopaths are anamalisitc in the worst sense. Their “beast” life force pulls on normal humans at a primal bone-marrow level. – If the timing is right – or wrong let’s say – we’re snagged whole in one breath.

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Am I a Sociopath Magnet?

Is it possible to be a sociopath magnet?
Feeling like sociopaths gravitate to us?

Are we “addicted” to the “abuser?”

Here’s the truth: we’re all sociopath magnets… as long as we’re fully human.

Sociopaths – antisocial psychopaths – are the broken ones – not the people they target. Sociopaths need normal people who do what normal people do when they’re in love and believe they’re mutually invested in a relationship: love, give, relationship build, compromise, trust, stay when the going gets rough.

We’ve all heard the tune: “Stand By Your Man”
And what gentleman ignores a damsel in distress?

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Why Isn’t Love Enough?

Love is groovy.
All we need is love.
Love is all we need.
If we’re talking about a relationship with a puppy.

We hear a lot of things about relationships, marriage and love. Relationships are hard work. It was love at first sight. We’re swept off our feet. Love conquers all. Every couple fights. Boys will be boys. A woman’s place is in the home. You made your bed, now lie in it. (Hmm… that’s ironic.) It’s only a piece of paper. True love is unconditional. We fall in love. We’re crazy in love. We’re love sick. All’s fair in love and war. (Yikes.)

There’s a barrel full and more of these platitudes floating around. We’ve all heard all of them. We all absorb them unconsciously – or believe them all the way. I have to say – personally – none of these sentiments cause me to want to be hit by cupid’s arrow. (Oh, there’s another one.)

How do our beliefs about love help us? How do they cause us suffering?

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Do Sociopaths Love Their Kids?

In a word: no.
Sociopaths have no love for anyone.
They have a different biology, a different brain.
They have no idea what the sensation of love feels like.

Do Sociopaths Love Their Kids?

We’d certainly like to think every parent loves their children. When we’re ensnared by a sociopath It’s Twilight Zone enough to absorb the idea that they don’t love us. Jeez-Louise, how much hurt and rejection can a body take?

Here’s a little secret that seems counter intuitive, but when taken in and really looked at can reduce the pain: since they never loved us – or anyone else under the sun: they aren’t rejecting us. Wrap the little gray cells around that.

Take this bizarre fact into our hearts and hold it there: they never loved us – therefore – drum roll – here’s the great news: they are not, and did not, and cannot devalue or reject us. – Same goes for the kids. – No one can reject or discard something they didn’t care about. – Make no mistake – other people are a “something” rather than a “someone” to any sociopath.

Let the personal fall by the wayside and see what it is for a smoother, more accurate and more complete recovery for ourselves and the kids..

Remember – sociopaths are faking all caring, loving emotions. They really and truly feel none of it. Think of it like this: the kids are in their own True Love Scam with the sociopath parent.

No child benefits from a sociopath hanging around in their lives.
Or a narcissist for that matter.

As amazing and loveable as our kids are,
We love them – the sociopath does not.
And let me remind us all: that’s okay. 

Why Do Sociopaths Act Like They Love their Kids?

Hint: sociopaths do and say all they do and say to: get what they want by any means they deem necessary and to get away with it and maintain a ridiculous sense of a “good reputation.” So what do they need…?

To gain the trust of a new target: this can mean posing as a loving parent to hook them.
To look respectable to someone who is – or they imagine is – observing them, even on FB.
To convince someone they’re great: a neighbor, a stranger, the new target, a Judge.
To win a child over: to appear “great” – and for purposes too sick to mention. The worst.

Most people don’t do bad things to children. Ever. 

There’s no end to what a sociopath might do. They have no boundaries in place about anything because of the limited functionality of their brains. Since they make no positive connections to any living being, they also have no conscience. – No sense of what we consider “right and wrong.”

A parent without a conscience
does not love their kids.

To a sociopath, kids are fair game. This is  – in plain talk: is what a sociopath is. Lots of things in life can change – this cannot. Their abnormal brain leaves them stuck this way. They can be nothing else. For a sociopath – the dynamics between a child and themselves are no different then the dynamics between a sociopath and an adult.

Many of us experience this nightmare, though most around us don’t understand.

Antisocial psychopaths aka sociopaths do however, see that in the normal-people’s world (our world) there’s a vast difference between how we act towards a child vs. how we behave towards an adult. Like everything else normal and human about us – sociopaths try to mimic this. They slip-up in shocking and obvious ways –  and fail miserably – just as they do with everything else.

When Do Sociopaths Act Like They Love Their Kids?

The child has a price tag: to get child support – or to get out of it.
They sense or know that we see through them: the kids become ammunition.
They think they might lose out: when we talk divorce, or breaking-up – it’s to pull us in.
We ask too many questions about their lies: a type of love-bombing to reel us back in.

Protect the kids.

Sociopaths are simplistic, predictable and limited creatures. Most of them abandon their kids. Sociopaths don’t love or want their children – unless there’s something to gain by acting like they love their kids. Know we can turn a sociopath’s weakness and limitations – the sociopath’s deep and constant fear and fragile, house-of-cards existence – to our advantage. Save the children. Live again.

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Why Are Sociopaths Called Antisocial?

These freaks love to party and hang.
They chat and charm and dance and joke.
Sociopaths are not wall flowers.

Why Are Sociopaths Called Antisocial?

Because – hold onto your hats… there’s more than one meaning of the word antisocial. Amazing. Who’d a thunk it. Here it goes, The Old English Oxford Dictionary – the most massive, most amazing dictionary on the planet – puts it like this:

Antisocial1. Opposed to sociality… averse to companionship. 2. Opposed to the principles on which society is constituted.

Number one is about not liking, or being uncomfortable in the company of others. – And things like not likin’ parties.

Number two is closer to the clinical term for a sociopath, Antisocial Psychopath, or a person of Antisocial Personality Disorder, as defined by the DSM-5 (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 5th Edition)

Sociopaths Aren’t Wall Flowers – Sociopaths Behave Against Social Norms

“The term antisocial may be confusing to the lay public, as the more common definition outside of clinical usage is an individual who is a loner or socially isolated. The literal meaning of the word antisocial can be more descriptive to both the lay public and professionals: to be anti-social, is to be against society; against rules, norms, laws and acceptable behavior. Individuals with Antisocial Personality Disorder tend to be charismatic, attractive, and very good at obtaining sympathy from others; for example, describing themselves as the victim of injustice. … Antisocials possess a superficial charm, they can be thoughtful and cunning, and have an intuitive ability to rapidly observe and analyze others, determine their needs and preferences, and present it in a manner to facilitate manipulation and exploitation. They are able to harm and use other people in this manner, without remorse, guilt, shame or regret.” ~ Theravive, by David Porter, MA, LADC



Modern Languages have Roots in Latin – Anti is Anti

Our words for medical diagnosis and terminology – a huge part of our everyday English language – and a lot of other languages as well, like French, Spanish, Portuguese and Italian – come from ancient, toga wearing people who spoke Latin in old-school, ancient Rome. Lots of beginnings and endings and even middle sections of our words are Latin: anti, post, sub, pre, non. There’s tons.

Anti is a word straight out of Latin and Rome. If you put the word anti into Google Translate and select the translation from English into Latin, you know what you get? – Anti.


Anti in English is anti in Latin. In old-school Latin anti means: to be or to go against (something), to be outside (of something), or opposed (to something).

So – in all – antisocial psychopaths or persons of antisocial personality disorder, don’t mind parties at all – they kinda thrive on them as a prime hunting ground. Sociopaths, in the medical-language realm, founded in Latin means: to go against society. Sociopaths function outside normally expected or accepted behavior. Sociopaths behave against what the rest of us expect and accept as normal. They behave anti- (against) social- (society) – they go against the grain of what’s considered okay. – And boy-howdy… Don’t they…?

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How Do I Know I’m Dating a Sociopath?

If we’re Googling for answers.
If we feel confused. If we’ve started wondering what’s wrong.
Chances are: we’re dating a sociopath.

romanticdinnerThere are very specific traits every sociopath shares. Some of these traits are present in normal people – the difference – a sociopath embodies all of these traits in a play-and-repeat pattern.

So how do we know if we’re
dating a sociopath?

The thing is: if we feel the need to Google to find our whats up with someone we think we’re in love with or might be falling in love with or having sex with – there is something wrong – deeply wrong – no matter what it is – this is a reason to end it. Really – it is. But – most of us won’t want to yet – we usually want to know more – that’s just human. – That’s how we got to the moon.


A sociopath or psychopath is technically known as an antisocial psychopath.
Why are Sociopaths Called Antisocial?

What do Sociopaths do in Relationships?

They want to see us a lot, or text and message a lot.
Seem interesting, smart even – and like they know what they’re talking about.
Seem to have things going on: good job, a project, maybe a lotta money.
They make promises.
They offer us something we want: a job, love, a new life – from day one, or three.
We probably start a sexual thing.

And then this happens:

They have sudden and irrational anger.
They break promises.
They say something really strange like, “You only think you love me.” Or, “I’m not average.”
They get weird about sex.
They tell us we can’t have or be part of that love or business thing.
Mood changes up to down, nice to mean, or active to knocked out.

And somewhere in our mind: We feel like they’re lying.

And then it’s worse:

They don’t talk to us, they ignore our texts, or get mad at us for contacting them.
They disappear for days.
They tell us every thing is our fault.
They tell us we’re idiots or call us fat.
We find out they’re seeing other people.
They might get physical – or try to get us to hit them.

And now: We know they’re lying. We know they’re deceiving us. Something is really wrong.

And then: They act like nothing happened and like we’re still chill.

Also: We’re afraid of them. We think maybe they’re “mentally unstable.” We know there’s something very wrong going on, but we can’t put our finger on it. Things are really weird.

How do we Get Away From a Sociopath?

Sociopaths Think Differently – They Have a Different Brian

Voila, the life of hell with a sociopath.

Sociopaths are very different than we are. They actually have a different brain – they process human relations completely differently than we do. They look at other people as objects. Utility devices to get things from, or use to get their kicks from – in a really bad way.

Sociopaths don’t ever change. They cannot. And they wouldn’t want to if they could, they like being sociopaths. They do know what they are. Sometimes they’ll tell us they’re a sociopath – that intimate, vulnerable comment makes us trust them more – so they can take more, longer.

Things can only go from bad to worse to much, much worse. They continue to be harsh, then nice. They continue to call us names and sometimes become violent. – Sometimes very violent. They take us through 5 stages of true love scam. Always.

Connectors between segments in their brains are missing so that they can’t process emotions as we do. Sociopaths and Psychopaths don’t feel emotions. They don’t process the meanings of words the way we do. They do lie. They do try to convince us they’re normal. This makes them dangerous.

Here’s a very detailed You Tube video with Dr. Hare, a leader
in studying antisocial psychopaths.

There is no end to the damage they can bring into our lives.

If you’re on this website wondering if you’re dating a sociopath, please don’t stand around looking for proof from them. The answer is already here: our suspicion, our fear, confusion and self-doubt is proof. We already know. Please, embrace your own life. Protect yourself. Check this out: Leaving a Sociopath – 5 Break Up Musts. Go no contact.

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