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Why, how and what…?

Am I a Sociopath Magnet?

Is it possible to be a sociopath magnet?
Feeling like sociopaths gravitate to us?

Are we “addicted” to the “abuser?”

Here’s the truth: we’re all sociopath magnets… as long as we’re fully human.

Sociopaths – antisocial psychopaths – are the broken ones – not the people they target. Sociopaths need normal people who do what normal people do when they’re in love and believe they’re mutually invested in a relationship: love, give, relationship build, compromise, trust, stay when the going gets rough.

We’ve all heard the tune: “Stand By Your Man”
And what gentleman ignores a damsel in distress?

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Why Isn’t Love Enough?

Love is groovy.
All we need is love.
Love is all we need.
If we’re talking about a relationship with a puppy.

We hear a lot of things about relationships, marriage and love. Relationships are hard work. It was love at first sight. We’re swept off our feet. Love conquers all. Every couple fights. Boys will be boys. A woman’s place is in the home. You made your bed, now lie in it. (Hmm… that’s ironic.) It’s only a piece of paper. True love is unconditional. We fall in love. We’re crazy in love. We’re love sick. All’s fair in love and war. (Yikes.)

There’s a barrel full and more of these platitudes floating around. We’ve all heard all of them. We all absorb them unconsciously – or believe them all the way. I have to say – personally – none of these sentiments cause me to want to be hit by cupid’s arrow. (Oh, there’s another one.)

How do our beliefs about love help us? How do they cause us suffering?

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Do Sociopaths Love Their Kids?

In a word: no.
Sociopaths have no love for anyone.
They have a different biology, a different brain.
They have no idea what the sensation of love feels like.

Do Sociopaths Love Their Kids?

We’d certainly like to think every parent loves their children. When we’re ensnared by a sociopath It’s Twilight Zone enough to absorb the idea that they don’t love us. Jeez-Louise, how much hurt and rejection can a body take?

Here’s a little secret that seems counter intuitive, but when taken in and really looked at can reduce the pain: since they never loved us – or anyone else under the sun: they aren’t rejecting us. Wrap the little gray cells around that.

Take this bizarre fact into our hearts and hold it there: they never loved us – therefore – drum roll – here’s the great news: they are not, and did not, and cannot devalue or reject us. – Same goes for the kids. – No one can reject or discard something they didn’t care about. – Make no mistake – other people are a “something” rather than a “someone” to any sociopath.

Let the personal fall by the wayside and see what it is for a smoother, more accurate and more complete recovery for ourselves and the kids..

Remember – sociopaths are faking all caring, loving emotions. They really and truly feel none of it. Think of it like this: the kids are in their own True Love Scam with the sociopath parent.

No child benefits from a sociopath hanging around in their lives.
Or a narcissist for that matter.

As amazing and loveable as our kids are,
We love them – the sociopath does not.
And let me remind us all: that’s okay. 

Why Do Sociopaths Act Like They Love their Kids?

Hint: sociopaths do and say all they do and say to: get what they want by any means they deem necessary and to get away with it and maintain a ridiculous sense of a “good reputation.” So what do they need…?

To gain the trust of a new target: this can mean posing as a loving parent to hook them.
To look respectable to someone who is – or they imagine is – observing them, even on FB.
To convince someone they’re great: a neighbor, a stranger, the new target, a Judge.
To win a child over: to appear “great” – and for purposes too sick to mention. The worst.

Most people don’t do bad things to children. Ever. 

There’s no end to what a sociopath might do. They have no boundaries in place about anything because of the limited functionality of their brains. Since they make no positive connections to any living being, they also have no conscience. – No sense of what we consider “right and wrong.”

A parent without a conscience
does not love their kids.

To a sociopath, kids are fair game. This is  – in plain talk: is what a sociopath is. Lots of things in life can change – this cannot. Their abnormal brain leaves them stuck this way. They can be nothing else. For a sociopath – the dynamics between a child and themselves are no different then the dynamics between a sociopath and an adult.

Many of us experience this nightmare, though most around us don’t understand.

Antisocial psychopaths aka sociopaths do however, see that in the normal-people’s world (our world) there’s a vast difference between how we act towards a child vs. how we behave towards an adult. Like everything else normal and human about us – sociopaths try to mimic this. They slip-up in shocking and obvious ways –  and fail miserably – just as they do with everything else.

When Do Sociopaths Act Like They Love Their Kids?

The child has a price tag: to get child support – or to get out of it.
They sense or know that we see through them: the kids become ammunition.
They think they might lose out: when we talk divorce, or breaking-up – it’s to pull us in.
We ask too many questions about their lies: a type of love-bombing to reel us back in.

Protect the kids.

Sociopaths are simplistic, predictable and limited creatures. Most of them abandon their kids. Sociopaths don’t love or want their children – unless there’s something to gain by acting like they love their kids. Know we can turn a sociopath’s weakness and limitations – the sociopath’s deep and constant fear and fragile, house-of-cards existence – to our advantage. Save the children. Live again.

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Why Are Sociopaths Called Antisocial?

These freaks love to party and hang.
They chat and charm and dance and joke.
Sociopaths are not wall flowers.

Why Are Sociopaths Called Antisocial?

Because – hold onto your hats… there’s more than one meaning of the word antisocial. Amazing. Who’d a thunk it. Here it goes, The Old English Oxford Dictionary – the most massive, most amazing dictionary on the planet – puts it like this:

Antisocial1. Opposed to sociality… averse to companionship. 2. Opposed to the principles on which society is constituted.

Number one is about not liking, or being uncomfortable in the company of others. – And things like not likin’ parties.

Number two is closer to the clinical term for a sociopath, Antisocial Psychopath, or a person of Antisocial Personality Disorder, as defined by the DSM-5 (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 5th Edition)

Sociopaths Aren’t Wall Flowers – Sociopaths Behave Against Social Norms

“The term antisocial may be confusing to the lay public, as the more common definition outside of clinical usage is an individual who is a loner or socially isolated. The literal meaning of the word antisocial can be more descriptive to both the lay public and professionals: to be anti-social, is to be against society; against rules, norms, laws and acceptable behavior. Individuals with Antisocial Personality Disorder tend to be charismatic, attractive, and very good at obtaining sympathy from others; for example, describing themselves as the victim of injustice. … Antisocials possess a superficial charm, they can be thoughtful and cunning, and have an intuitive ability to rapidly observe and analyze others, determine their needs and preferences, and present it in a manner to facilitate manipulation and exploitation. They are able to harm and use other people in this manner, without remorse, guilt, shame or regret.” ~ Theravive, by David Porter, MA, LADC



Modern Languages have Roots in Latin – Anti is Anti

Our words for medical diagnosis and terminology – a huge part of our everyday English language – and a lot of other languages as well, like French, Spanish, Portuguese and Italian – come from ancient, toga wearing people who spoke Latin in old-school, ancient Rome. Lots of beginnings and endings and even middle sections of our words are Latin: anti, post, sub, pre, non. There’s tons.

Anti is a word straight out of Latin and Rome. If you put the word anti into Google Translate and select the translation from English into Latin, you know what you get? – Anti.


Anti in English is anti in Latin. In old-school Latin anti means: to be or to go against (something), to be outside (of something), or opposed (to something).

So – in all – antisocial psychopaths or persons of antisocial personality disorder, don’t mind parties at all – they kinda thrive on them as a prime hunting ground. Sociopaths, in the medical-language realm, founded in Latin means: to go against society. Sociopaths function outside normally expected or accepted behavior. Sociopaths behave against what the rest of us expect and accept as normal. They behave anti- (against) social- (society) – they go against the grain of what’s considered okay. – And boy-howdy… Don’t they…?

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How Do I Know I’m Dating a Sociopath?

If we’re Googling for answers.
If we feel confused. If we’ve started wondering what’s wrong.
Chances are: we’re dating a sociopath.

romanticdinnerThere are very specific traits every sociopath shares. Some of these traits are present in normal people – the difference – a sociopath embodies all of these traits in a play-and-repeat pattern.

So how do we know if we’re
dating a sociopath?

The thing is: if we feel the need to Google to find our whats up with someone we think we’re in love with or might be falling in love with or having sex with – there is something wrong – deeply wrong – no matter what it is – this is a reason to end it. Really – it is. But – most of us won’t want to yet – we usually want to know more – that’s just human. – That’s how we got to the moon.


A sociopath or psychopath is technically known as an antisocial psychopath.
Why are Sociopaths Called Antisocial?

What do Sociopaths do in Relationships?

They want to see us a lot, or text and message a lot.
Seem interesting, smart even – and like they know what they’re talking about.
Seem to have things going on: good job, a project, maybe a lotta money.
They make promises.
They offer us something we want: a job, love, a new life – from day one, or three.
We probably start a sexual thing.

And then this happens:

They have sudden and irrational anger.
They break promises.
They say something really strange like, “You only think you love me.” Or, “I’m not average.”
They get weird about sex.
They tell us we can’t have or be part of that love or business thing.
Mood changes up to down, nice to mean, or active to knocked out.

And somewhere in our mind: We feel like they’re lying.

And then it’s worse:

They don’t talk to us, they ignore our texts, or get mad at us for contacting them.
They disappear for days.
They tell us every thing is our fault.
They tell us we’re idiots or call us fat.
We find out they’re seeing other people.
They might get physical – or try to get us to hit them.

And now: We know they’re lying. We know they’re deceiving us. Something is really wrong.

And then: They act like nothing happened and like we’re still chill.

Also: We’re afraid of them. We think maybe they’re “mentally unstable.” We know there’s something very wrong going on, but we can’t put our finger on it. Things are really weird.

How do we Get Away From a Sociopath?

Sociopaths Think Differently – They Have a Different Brian

Voila, the life of hell with a sociopath.

Sociopaths are very different than we are. They actually have a different brain – they process human relations completely differently than we do. They look at other people as objects. Utility devices to get things from, or use to get their kicks from – in a really bad way.

Sociopaths don’t ever change. They cannot. And they wouldn’t want to if they could, they like being sociopaths. They do know what they are. Sometimes they’ll tell us they’re a sociopath – that intimate, vulnerable comment makes us trust them more – so they can take more, longer.

Things can only go from bad to worse to much, much worse. They continue to be harsh, then nice. They continue to call us names and sometimes become violent. – Sometimes very violent. They take us through 5 stages of true love scam. Always.

Connectors between segments in their brains are missing so that they can’t process emotions as we do. Sociopaths and Psychopaths don’t feel emotions. They don’t process the meanings of words the way we do. They do lie. They do try to convince us they’re normal. This makes them dangerous.

Here’s a very detailed You Tube video with Dr. Hare, a leader
in studying antisocial psychopaths.

There is no end to the damage they can bring into our lives.

If you’re on this website wondering if you’re dating a sociopath, please don’t stand around looking for proof from them. The answer is already here: our suspicion, our fear, confusion and self-doubt is proof. We already know. Please, embrace your own life. Protect yourself. Check this out: Leaving a Sociopath – 5 Break Up Musts. Go no contact.

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Are Sociopaths Intelligent?

Hardly. Sociopaths are not intelligent.
No conscience makes for no limits, not genius.

What sociopaths do to con is as old as dirt. Their tactics are seen in the fundamentals of martial arts and in books like The Art of War. Sociopaths use their opponent’s own strengths and weaknesses against them. Part of the trouble is: we don’t know we’re in battle. They do, giving a leading advantage, but in the end, they lose. In the meantime, we go through hell while they use our fabulousness against us. – It’s a temporary gain. They are not smart. – Sociopaths are dumber than boxes of rocks. They’re about as deep as a potato chip.

Sociopaths are ridiculous.




Sociopaths so-called intelligence is comparable to the cunning of pigs.

Traits of a Sociopath

Often listed among traits of a sociopath we see the word intelligentThe more appropriate term is cunning – at least it is on my list. Are sociopaths intelligent? No.

People say pigs are intelligent too.

I have a friend who had (yes – had) a pet pig. Cute and tiny at first, even soft and cuddly. My friend loved that adorable, tender, pink piggy. But, what people don’t tell you is that this sweet piggy, snuggling up as you watch TV on the couch together, grows bigger. And much, much stronger, harsher, prickly. They’re dirty. And they stink. They sprout a wet, snot-slicked, heaving-disc of a snout they use to constantly root, grunt and grind against anything and everything – including my friend’s leg, or any near by leg – 24 hours a day unless asleep – always looking for food. Perpetually. Relentlessly.

That pig did things to trick food out of my friend. It stole food off counter tops while my friend made a sandwich, ripping-off entire loaves of bread in it’s slimy little piggy teeth. It yanked kitchen drawers out of the wall by the handle in his iron clamp of a jaw, SpLaaaTTtttT! to the linoleum, snuffling through the contents baggies and aluminum foil flying hoping for a morsel, any crumb to eat.

That pig knocked into my friend’s legs so he buckled to one side, falling against the edge of the Fridgedaire, that pig nabbed goodies: grapes, avocado, tomatoes, strawberries – ice cubes. My friend, once again upright, closing the fridge door halfway on his own arm, then heaving with one foot on top of the pig’s head was the only way he could grab his own dinner ingredients. Every. Single Night. My friend was completely terrorized by an animal he’d taken in as a household pet – deep in guilt and trauma-bound to the soft-pink-piggy he’d loved so much.

You ask why not put the pig in another room, or outside…? That pig had broken the knobs on every door. It screeched bloody-murder out in the yard so it had to be let in before the neighbors called the cops.

Sociopaths are Cunning – Like Pigs

Yes, that pig didn’t know it’s survival came from my friend.
As much as it wanted what it wanted, it was not intelligent. Not. One. Drop.

One day – and I witnessed this – Mr. Pig, ran down the hallway to the foyer, his cloven hooves clicking with a brittle, final and endless foreboding. It clickity-clattered along the bamboo floor at the fastest velocity it could hurtle it’s 200 pounds – which was shockingly fast. Piggity had heard the front door open and sniffed the booty from the grocery store being carried in.

He slid to a partial stop as he hit his mark, deftly clamping the brown paper bag from the bottom corner in the steel-vise grip of his yellow, gruesome fang-teeth, leaned back into his hind-quarters, ripping a massive, gaping wound in the bag: apples, cookies, bananas cascaded in a smacking, tumbling avalanche. That pig snorted up all it could get it’s dirty claws and snotty nose on. Single-minded, the top of it’s metal-plate-of-a-skull bulldozed my friend’s hand out of it’s way, while he screeched and squealed and snarfed up the Oreo’s, packaging and all.

Have you ever heard a pig SKreEeeEEL when you try to take your own Oreo’s back?

Sociopaths Do Anything to Get What They Want – So Do Pigs

That pig tore up my friend’s bed sheets, pooped and pissed in the house whenever he felt like it. One fateful day, piggy-piglet adorably (maliciously) slammed the front door shut with his dripping, drooling face and battleship head while my friend got the mail from the streetside mail box, locking him out so that he had to clamber over his own 6” fence, just shy of breaking an arm when he dropped to the backyard mud. It used to be grass, but the pig ate it. And for all my friend’s embarrassed, sweating gymnastics, scaling the splintering planks would have been fruitless if the back entries hadn’t been sliding glass doors that the pig couldn’t budge.

Think About it This Way: Sociopaths have no emotional intelligence since their abnormal, under-functioning brains disallow processing or feeling any emotions other than want, anger, fear, deluded superiority and glee at getting what they want. Emotional intelligence is considered – certainly the most useful form of intelligence – if not the highest form and – we – highly empathetic people – have emotional intelligence by the ton.

Dumb. Dumb. Dumb.

Sociopaths Cannot Survive Without People Believing and Trusting Them

The pig stood there at the patio door looking up at my flabbergasted, panting, scrapped up, trembling friend – hair tousled, glasses knocked crooked. His heart, body and pride had been through the ringer – the piggy, blinked his wire-like, pale lashes with a dumb, innocent look – that also held a warning: this time the pig had failed in his take-over, but there would be a next time. – Except there wasn’t. Because the very next day my friend sent that piggy away to a farm for unwanted, unmanageable pigs. There are apparently many such pigs on many such farms.

Are pigs sociopaths? No.
But sociopaths are pigs. 
Dumb. Ignorant. Conniving. Sneaky.
A great pretense of smart is put forth by them.

Our Empathy Buys Sociopaths Time to Take and Ruin

My friend felt so guilty, he gave that little piglet so many 2nd chances. Oh, that pig knew what he was doing. So do sociopaths. And it’s all riotous improvisation just like with the little piggy. – Snuffling out one opportunity after the next. Never ceasing in the hunt. Leaving us to leap tall fences. – But that’s okay – we’re our own Super Heroes. We are our own Angels. We are awesome!

Think of it Like This: Sociopaths are as out of control of their own existence and survival as the most helpless creature on earth. – If we didn’t believe them, where would they be? – Why Do We Believe The Lies of a Sociopath?

Sociopaths Hijack Our Humanity – Shut Down the Candy Store

So – a sociopath – like the revolting pig my friend took in as a defenseless, sweet pet (sorry animal lovers) uses our own strengths and weaknesses against us; our normal human gorgeousness – against us. Our own desires for love, a family, a home, a good life – against us. They. Are. Monsters. They aren’t intelligent. Just remorseless. They have no emotional connection to us, or to anyone – not even that other woman, or that one, or the other one, or that guy either.

We can use the sociopaths limited brain against them: Realize it’s a crime – not a relationship by any means. Know they lie at all times. Everything they say or do is to get what they want and not get caught. Don’t buy into their stories. Don’t respond to their emotional harassment and playing sick and sob stories. End it asap. Go no contact and stay there forever. Reframe the nightmare.

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What is No Contact?

Why go no contact?
After a sociopath no contact is the way to take our life back.
We say it – but what exactly is no contact?
And why does it matter so much?

To make things super-de-duper clear in this horrendously unclear time here’s a handy-dandy list describing what constitutes “contact” and what we want to achieve: “no contact.” Keeping contact – exchanging raging emails and text messages – even “lovey-dovey” ones – not only keeps us in the mess and the lies – it creates new trauma.

Not talking to each other is advised in normal relationship breakups.
How much more critical is it in a true love scam…?!

Each bit of any contact prolongs our harm. A sociopath is always lying. They won’t offer up closure, an apology or a sincere exchange of any kind. Further contact inspires the sociopath to be violent or terrorizing. Contact could lead to our loosing legal battles for custody, divorce, annulment or restraining orders. Staying in contact can make us look as crazy as they say we are. Go no contact. All the way. Be fearless – and free.

Sociopaths don’t care how we feel or what we say.
To a sociopath – any contact is good contact.
Any contact means they pull the strings.

This is a situation that demands our head winning over what might linger in our heart. The sociopath who hijacked us intended no good for us no matter how charming they were – or are. They will never, ever be anything good they promised. Strictly establishing no contact and keeping no contact will influence our future in the days to come and long-term. Staying no contact is to protect our kids.

Staying In Contact Does This: Attorneys and Judges frown on those standing before them keeping contact with the sociopath abuser, we’re divorcing, seeking an annulment from or trying to keep our children from. Unless a specific communication with them is requested by an attorney, staying in contact – makes us look unreliable, untrustworthy, unstable and indecisive to judges, child services, counselors, police and attorneys. Staying in contact blows our claims of abuse, defrauding, theft, and all the rest straight out the window. We lose big-time if we stay in contact. Go no contact.

This is Staying In Contact. This is what we don’t want to do:

Let their calls ring through to our phones. – Even if we don’t answer.
Call their number and hang up.
Dial their number to their voicemail.
Take their phone calls.
Call them.
Leave them messages.
Listen to their voicemail messages.
Let emails from them land in our inbox.
Read emails they send to us.
Respond to their emails.
Sort through their emails because we have their password.
Read text, SMS, private Facebook, WhatsApp, Snapchat or any messages from them.
Respond to any messages from them.
Initiate any messages to them.
Look at their Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, or any of their online images, or media.
Look at their “friends” social media pages.
Sort through their posts looking at their new target or for other victims.
Look at old photos of them in our phone or on our FB page or anywhere else.
Sort through our wedding photos or other pictures of him or us.
Keep things that remind us of him or her.
Make an alias FB account so we can look at their page that we blocked.

There is one exception to keeping contact: Only if an attorney tells us to send a particular message to the sociopath from our email for a legal step in any legal process. These emails are then forwarded as is to the attorney for said legal process.

Across the social media spectrum and all online activity:
Change all passwords, logins, usernames and pins. Immediately.

This is No Contact:

Facebook:

Using the BLOCK function in the Privacy settings of Facebook to block them.
Doing the same with all mutual “Friends” or connections on Facebook.
Not looking at their Facebook page.
Not looking at their friends’ Facebook pages.
Not looking at our (now former) friends who are “Friends” on his or her Facebook page.
Never private messaging him or her.
Not messaging any of his or her “Friends”.
See here: Block Sociopaths on Facebook D.I.Y. Guide

Email:

Get a new email address.
Don’t give them this new one.
Do not email them.
Do not read any emails they send you to any email address whatsoever.

Keep Old Messages: Archive old emails and texts that may be needed to show violence, intended violence, marriage fraud, name calling or harassment or refusal to follow procedure in divorce, annulment or other legal matters. Make sure they have time date stamps and clear indication of whose device it’s from (theirs) and to whom (you or other targets.) Keep these as screen shots, print outs, and files on a thumb drive. Save copies for you. Forward them to your attorney.

Cell Phones:

There’s a BLOCK function on smart phones per each phone number. Use it with his or her’s.
Alternately – call your service provider and have them enter the number as “Blocked”.
No calls or texts from that number can come in after that.
Alternately – Login to our online account with our service provider and block the numbers.
Do not ever answer any calls in future coming in as: BLOCKED or UNAVAILABLE.
Don’t answer calls from an unknown number.
BLOCK the unknown numbers as you did his or her’s. Yes. The sociopath’s.


More things we don’t want to do:

Believe This: We might want the sociopath to hurt like we did – sure, me too, even prefer him dead. So, some stay in contact to call them names and fight with them to hurt them. Uhm. News Flash: Sociopaths do not “hurt.” Sociopaths have no feelings. – From their point of view: if we’re engaging in any way, they still own us. It’s only us who hurt from contact. No contact is what hurts them. Go and stay no contact.

Get a new or used-new phone and a new number. A used-new phone can be just the ticket right now.

Do not load old contacts. Enter them old-school one by one… Only the good ones.  – In extreme cases consider a pre-pay burner phone for 6 months or so.

Read more about No Contact here. Self Care Haven

Instagram, Pinterest:

Nope. Nothing. Don’t look at theirs. Block theirs and all associated with them. Period.

LinkedIn: Ditto as above.

Snap Chat: Nope. We BLOCKED their number in our phone. See Cell Phones above.

Facetime: See Cell Phones above – their number is blocked!

Skype: No. No Skype. Zero. Zip. Nadda. Zilch.

Land Lines: Change our voice greeting to default. Screen calls. Better yet: Change our number.

FAX Number: Again if we have a land line for faxing – change the number.

It must be pretty clear – we also don’t meet them for coffee, to trade our belongings or to have sex. We don’t go out to dinner, meet them at a club, meet them with friends. Follow the rules of leaving a sociopath. We re-key our doors or change out the entire locking mechanism on our doors. We do not answer the door if they drop by. No. Never. I know we all know this, but I’m just sayin’. Go No Contact. All the way. Forever.

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