Getting away from a sociopath is gut wrenching.
Get them gone for good.
Safety is number 1.
Aside from going into a witness protection program, dying our hair and moving to Siberia how can we feel safe after getting away from a sociopath?
There are two things we can do that keep us safe after getting away from a sociopath. These are entirely in our hands, it’s in our control. These two things are how we get away from them and how we stay Hoover-proof.
What do we do to stay safe after getting
away from a sociopath?
We go: No Contact. And become a: Non Threat
Even sociopaths have a weakness.
Sociopaths may seem all braggy-pants and domineering. And – they are. But they’re also scared out of their gourds of one thing: being exposed for what they are. And using this great fear is how we make ourselves sociopath free and Hoover-proof.
The first one we’ve heard a lot about: Going No Contact.
Are you sick of heairng this one yet? I hope not, because there’s nothing better – and there doesn’t need to be. A sociopath can’t do much if we’re out of reach. SImple. Go no contact. Read aboutwhat no contact is and why it’s for us to win our freedom and our court cases here and read about more about no contact and what it does to sociopaths here.
No contact is number-one critical for stopping a sociopath in their tracks. – No contact is speaks loud and clear to the sociopath. It means party over. Candy store closed. It means we’re not playing anymore.
Sociopaths get angry over no contact. They’ve had people go no contact on them many, many times; it’s nothing new for them, but it does piss them off. They like to hold onto prey and add more and keep those too. – All in all they know from their past expereinces every scam ends and that no contact singnals that dreaded end. Aside from not getting any more things, or food or sex there’s another reason they don’t like to let contact end: they want to make sure we aren’t going to bust them.
The second tactic for our safety and protection is to become a: Non-Threat.
To understand this let’s look at what’s going on in that hamster wheel of a brain of a sociopath:
“I’m better than these idiots. I can take whatever I want. I’m too smart to be caught. – I’ll beat their heads in them if I’m caught.”
Play and repeat. Play and repeat. Play and repeat. – A cycle of nonsense. Dangerous an dridiculous nonsense.
By the end of every true love scam they’ve caused damage. They like to control the end of scams to make sure there’s no trouble coming their way. They even start dropping hints to test what we’ll accept and how much time they have left before all fails and they need to bail. They com eout with one liners, like, “You deserve better than me.” And, “You wouldn’t want me if you knew what I was really like.”
Something is super off and we know. We might be pretty sure they have another woman – or man. And we figured out they lied to us a jillion times.Next time they say, “I’m done.” – Agree. Say, “Yah, you know, you’re right. We should end this.” Then let them go. – Pack for them. Answer magnanimously, “Yep. You’re right. I think you deserve to start your new life without me tonight.” – Send them out the door. without making a peep. – Then call a locksmith. Pronto.
Every true love scam comes to an end.
Sociopaths do move on. If this candy store is closed they have to go where the money and shelter is. They look at normal people as something like a giant mall. They have a lot of us “stores” at one time.
Because of their limited brains, they operate from whatever is presented to them. We really can tell them anything to get them away from us, get our bank accounts out of their hands and to make other barriers. Their entire world is fake and lies and made up stories.
We can tell them anything.
No matter how heinous their abuse has been, let them go quietly. Let them think we’re a non-threat. Let them think we feel like we messed up and lost them – but only do this verbally – never write it in an email or text. Whatever it takes to get them out the door of our lives and close it tight. Go dark. – No contact. – Non-threat.
They don’t get away with anything.
They all end up in a dark alley with the stuffing kicked out of them.
Figuratively or in actuality.
If they committed legit on-the-books crimes and we have solid court-admissable proof consider the legal route. Always get divorces – which we can get with or without them being present. Or fight for an annulment. Always report to immigration and FBI, Interpol, FIS and the like where applicable.
What’s considered criminal or civil harassment varies State to State within the USA.
And is different country to country, here’s news on Canadian harassment law.
Domestic violence laws in Australia and New Zealand.
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