True Love Scam – Married to a Con Man

I Married a Con Man. – So Maybe You Can Skip It.

If you’re in a scammer’s grip,
I hope  you recognize, get away, go no contact
and recover before he or she can lie again.
It’s time to thrive.

I married a con man  – accidentally. A long-time male friend introduced me to someone as a short-term roommate – who very quickly became my husband.

True love scam is carried out by a con man –  A con man is a sociopath.

Your blog is very well done and critically important to prevent future scams, helping prevent more trauma and tragedy. Hard to say, but you are lucky you made it out alive. The sociopaths ruse is deception upon deception. Since people are objects they are disposable to the sociopath. Not all allow their prey to live to tell the tale. Thank you for your courage, commitment and hard work. Your work may save lives … More. ~ Dr. Deborah Ettel, PhD Psychology 

Sometimes people call them Narcissists. They aren’t, but they are narcissistic.

I fell in love in seconds, so deeply, over the moon. A symptom of the sociopath’s profound mesmerizing effect on their prey. We met and married in 7 days. 10 months later – looking into the eyes of  a monster – I told him to leave. It took action based in unshakeable faith, courage and wisdom to untangle the nightmare faux-lationship and take back my life.

Sociopaths are male or female.
They’re all alike and equally bereft of humanity.

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Sociopaths are charming, heartless, pretending, parasites who cannot love.
Everything is a lie and narcissistic manipulation.

Sociopaths lie as easily and automatically as we breathe. Also with the same necessity. Sociopaths lie for survival. Lying is their income, their persona – their entire existence. Their brain is different from a measurable biological standpoint. They’re born this way. There are male sociopaths and female sociopaths. Either way, they know they’re monsters. They enjoy it. They love who they are; they do not love anyone or anything else – not even us.

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People ask: Didn’t you know he was a con man?!
Answer: No. I didn’t.
I thought he was my dream man.

Over 3 days time, stark proof came to light: I was married to a monster. I applied my practice of SGI, Nichiren Buddhism, chanting early each morning, 3 successive days to know the truth, bringing an escalation of horrific reveals each day and a shrieking-silent avalanche of 10 days of terror. – He knew that I knew what he was. – To protect myself I played dumb: faked regret, tears and submission – I lied – turning his myopic self-interest and vanity  to my advantage to get him out. Then the real fear came.

The next year and a half was challenging the impossible, facing bone deep fear, undoing his damage, discovering wives, abandoned children, fiances, business scam, large-scale criminal fraud and even links to deaths of innocent victims involved with him. He fled to 9 countries – hopping from place, to place, to place – circling back and forth, attempting to out run his deceptions and lies. Now he hides on a tiny island in the Caribbean, where certainly he’ll wear out his welcome.

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Love your website. It’s really the only one, and I’ve read many, that makes sense to me. You really delve into areas that other website authors on narcissism and sociopaths haven’t touched upon. Thanks! ~ H.G.

Fantastic article! So many truths & keys to unlock & regain YOURSELF back!! ~ R.D.O. (Why do We Believe the Lies of a Sociopath)

Excellent writing, accurate information! ~ E. (You Know He’s a Con Man If…)

Invaluable! Reinforces my resolve. ~ S.S (What is No Contact?)

I’m amazed at the personal growth and changes in myself. Thank you for your kind words and support and more tools for recovery. (PTSD After a Sociopath) ~ L.L.

Wow! Your articles are spot on – really useful and to the point. ~ E.G. (Dating After Dating a Sociopath)

Thank you for this post. (Are Sociopaths Intelligent?) – You have once again set everything straight. I truly adore you and your insights! ~ L.P.

Terrific, smart, honest article about dating and being with a sociopath / narcissist. No Contact starts today. Thank you. ~ K.M.

You’re really a breath of fresh air in this hell! Your knowledge and candor and sense of humor about these horrible people and situations. Thank you from the bottom of my heart! Thank you for this site! ~ M.

By far one of the most informative pieces I have ever read. Makes the madness of the last 8 years so simple to understand. Thank you. ~ L.G. (A Sociopath, a Narcissist and their Children)

Your website is so dead on and your writing is compassionate and fantastic. When I feel weak or overwhelmed, I read something from your website. It is amazingly perfect for my situation. ~ E.J.R. (Reframe the Nightmare with a Sociopath)

I am a pastoral counselor and continually get these kind of Narcissistic Victims – there’s an epidemic. Thanks for this resource!  Blessings. ~ E.G.

AMAZING article — so very accurate. (Reframe the Nightmare With a Sociopath) Absolutely in line with every credible piece of academic literature as well as self-help advice I have been both striving to prove, teach, and take myself for the past 30+ years. – An incredible resource on the rise, sharing no BS validations for readers who themselves have gone through similar encounters. ~ K.D.

You are one of the brightest most intelligent, informed persons I have encountered on this subject. You masterfully post to take care of members here. You should write a book. ~ S.I. – Male Reader (true love scam FB page)


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